A Life Update


I suppose I owe you a life update. I invited you on this crazy journey, so I should keep you in the loop, right?

(For those of you who are new here: last June I moved to Pittsburgh. If you need to catch up, it all started here and here.)

As much I would like to tell you that moving to Pittsburgh has dramatically changed my life, made everything happier / better, and opened up oodles of opportunities, I can’t … yet. I had hoped that relocating would be enough. – That a different place, more people, new and exciting activities, etc. would be the ticket to opening me up to a supremely happy existence. However, it just didn’t happen. Part of me didn’t want to write this post because I am embarrassed to still be in much the same situation seven months after moving here.

I know I only have myself to blame. Although I went to events, markets, restaurants, coffees shops, etc., I didn’t give it enough, do enough, put myself out there enough, or try hard enough. I could list a million reasons (some better than others), but they’d just be excuses.

To be fair, it hasn’t all been miserable and unsuccessful. I’ve met some people and made a couple new friends, plus I’m genuinely enjoying this urban location. I find so much joy in visiting local coffee shops, experiencing new-to-me foods, seeing city sites, etc. I’m glad I’m here. I’m happy I took the risk of moving here. However, in my mind, I just thought I’d be further along. Great expectations I suppose.

With that being said, I’m excited 2018 is here. I’ve spent the past two weeks in kind of a haze, bummed about my current situation, but that has to end. It’s time to hit the reset button and try again. I’m not quite sure how yet, but I’m planning and working on ways to be where I want to be. In fact, last week I hired a life coach as recommended by a reader. I’m hoping to make many positive changes through that.

I do realize that some of you are sick of hearing the same story again and again. I get it. I hate telling it over and over. How many times have I made proclamations here only to find myself in the same situation a few months down the road? Too many to count. But I guess there is something to be said for continuing to try. Life may kick me down, but I’m not going to let it keep me down. I’ve got to get it correct one of these times, right?


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You also might be wondering about my house in St. Marys. Well, I sold it. I had no intention of doing so. However, a few months after my move, an opportunity presented itself, and I couldn’t say no. I knew the St. Marys house wasn’t my forever home, so it was time to let it go. It also happens that the folks who are buying the house want the contents, so packing up and moving shouldn’t be too hard. Naturally, I’ll be taking personal items, but I’m going to do my best to keep things to a minimum.

I’m not sad about selling, so please don’t be sad for me. I had a great run with that house, and thankfully, I have many pages here on IBC by which to remember it. If anything, I’m feeling anxious and unsettled about simply not having a “home.” Not the physical structure, but I place where I feel comfortable, a place where I belong.

So now what? Well, I’ve been house hunting in Pittsburgh. In fact, I was inches away from making an offer on a place, but my financing kept falling through. Even though things are in order now, and I could put in an offer today, I’m taking those many failed attempts as a sign from the universe to continue the search.

As grateful as I am for my apartment and the opportunities it’s given me, I can tell you that apartment living is not for me. I’m itching to be in a house again. Unfortunately, the housing market in Pittsburgh is rather slow this time of year, so my search for a house may take a little longer than I’d like. I suppose that’s a good thing though. It seems best not to rush things. It also gives me time to pause and figure out what I want and where I want to be.

So that’s what’s been going on in my personal life.

I had thought about including a bit about the blog and my direction for it, but I’ll save that for another post. In addition to my personal uncertainties, I’ve been struggling with the blog as well. (This was probably apparent in my almost three-week hiatus from IBC and social media.) I’m certain at some point I’ll reach out for your feedback and advice. Thanks for your patience in my absence.

I could go on and share more details, but I think that pretty much covers things. If you have questions, let me know in the comments, and I’ll do my best to answer them. I’m sure I’ve forgotten something.

As always, thank you for your love, support, and loyalty. You are dear to me.

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  • Colleen J at

    Oh, Michael…I completely understand where you at. I have often felt compelled to do something different only to end up in the same place where I started. Even with much effort, it can be hard. Pittsburgh is a great city, having moved away from there just a few years ago, back to my hometown of Toledo. Good luck in your house hunt! I wish you all the best in 2018!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thank you so much, Colleen! Hope you have a great year too.

      xo Michael

  • Alison at

    Thanks for the update. You have all of us pulling for you!! Genuinely hoping the 2018 is truly a year of new beginnings and great joy for you.

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thank you Alison! Wishing the same for you!

      xo Michael

  • Carrie at

    I just Love everything about you. I’ve been following along for years, pulling for you.

    I am a bit of an introvert. It’s hard, hard, HARD for me to make new friends. I moved almost 2 years ago and struggled with a social group. So, I read How to Win Friends and Influence People. It helped. Then, I thought about the type of friends I wanted. When I saw qualities I liked in people out and about, I introduced myself. It has been hard. Not all people want someone trying to be a bestie. I never had someone do that for me and I would have loved it in darker, lonelier days of mine. Anyhow, I realized for ME I had to go out of my comfort level and actually BE the person snatching up friends left and right. I couldn’t wait for that person to find me.

    I’m sure life is difficult for you in your situation despite all the blessings you have. For me, you are a huge bright spot in my social media life. I don’t know you at all but I honestly, genuinely love all your posts and your energy.

    Keep on doing what you’re doing. Look for little ways to interact with peers. Throw a favorite things party (that was huge for me -I wanted free stuff from friends but the group that came was so much fun. We still do fun nights together.), just do what you want. Go be that person you want to be.


    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Carrie, thank you so much for sharing all of this. It’s so comforting and helpful. (I will definitely be checking out that book.) I’m also so thankful to know you love what I share here and on social. There’s been a lot of self doubt in that department, so I appreciate hearing that. Thank you!!

      xo Michael

  • vanessa at

    Gosh Michael…so sorry this is happening. I have been there. like being very discontent with where I am at and unsure of next step-it is so frustrating. Recently, I have just been telling myself-maybe things are supposed to be like this for now and just go with it. Being frustrated and blue-is just not fun and being stressed ALL the time-ugh, horrible. My hope for you is to just be content-that is not failure. You are very successful-something you have to remind yourself of. I so enjoy you! I would sure interject some blog ideas if you need them. Sometimes reaching out to others really helps with creativity and also keeps you in touch with others! Good luck!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thank you so much Vanessa, I always appreciate you comments here. And yes, content is the goal. I think day-by-day may be the best approach. Thanks again!

      xo Michael

  • Hannah at

    Love this Michael! It’s so great to be open and honest! Life is not always peachy and I don’t think your readers think any less of you for being open about this. Some bloggers never show the not so pretty side, and that’s not real. We all have our ups and downs! You are so brave for writing about this many times! I’m so excited for you to find a house to call your own! Also i am so happy for you for the next coming weeks! I know it will be life changing and I don’t even know how to explain it! Don’t be too hard on yourself, people still love you even if you don’t have fresh content daily! I’m excited to see what you have in store for 2018! Just go at your own pace!! Hugs to you!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      It’s so great to hear all of this. Thank you Hannah. I’m excitied and hopeful for the future. Thank you!

      xo Michael

  • Kathy Kraemer at

    Thanks for the update. I don’t want to add more to you list , but I would love it if you wrote a book! You have so many great ideas and I often refer back to your blog for ideas and recipes. I just love your style and your creativity. Hang in there and best wishes!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thanks Kathy! Maybe SOMEDAY! 😉

      xo Michael

  • Karin K at

    Please don’t apologize for “these kinds of” posts – you really don’t do them often, and they are a part of who you are. I think you are incredibly brave, doing what you’re doing, and I am excited to see where this next step takes you. You really are my absolute favorite inspiration blog, and I have never gotten tired of your posts like I have occasionally with other bloggers. Keep your chin up!

  • Erin at

    Thanks for the update. I wished I lived in Pittsburgh so I could be friends with you!! I hope you get everything figured out.

    Will you be posting a recap on a final “house” tour of the house you sold? Would love it see it all final in one place. I’ve been following for years.

  • Trudy at

    I am a new follower, and I really like your style, and honesty. So many bloggers are pushing sales almost on a daily basis, not what I’m interested in. Stay try to younand you’ll be fine!

  • LTaylor at

    Don’t apologize for being so real! That’s so, so hard to come by on social media. How many of us have been where you are? Or are there now? 🙋🏼‍♀️ There’s comfort in knowing you aren’t alone. You’ll get there. It does feel a bit refreshing to start a new year and begin again, or keep going or whatever! You’re doing great. Best of luck with house hunting and buying-always love and appreciate your content. Xo

  • Ashley at

    I’m a newer reader, but I wanted to stop by and say I really appreciate your candor. Honestly, if you asked me for a “life update” right now it wouldn’t be glowing, either. But sometimes that’s how things are, and that’s ok. I’m a big believer that we learn from from every test and every trial. Hang in there, new friend.

  • Rachel at

    I have always been afraid of that “pause” and would rush around to not feel uncomfortable or fear. It never served me well. You are much wiser than I was at your age. Sit in the pause and try to savor this time. It took me more years than I am willing to admit but I have learned to love that time and seeking. I hope you do to. Wishing you the best of luck!

  • Stacy Risenmay at

    7 months is not very long in the grand scheme of things so don’t get too down about it. I am so excited for your house hunting journey. It will be fun to see where you land. I can’t wait to see you in Austin soon! You are the best 🙂

  • Josie at

    I just want to encourage you to find a church where you can come to know Jesus Christ. I think that is the friendship you are missing and searching for. I know some Reformed Presbyterian churches in the Pittsburgh area are very good. Reach out.

  • Amy | Delineate Your Dwelling at

    I don’t think a single person thinks less of you for dealing with the same things over and over… I’m pretty sure that is almost always how life goes. We are always just doing our best to take baby steps in any direction. We moved across the country this past August and I tell you, just getting your home slightly in order takes about a year it feels like– let alone all the plans and improvements, those take even longer! So, I would give yourself some grace of thinking you should be farther along at this point… I’m still definitely in the “looking for new friends” stage and only have one room slightly how I would like it to be. I hope you do find your excitement for the blog again… I sure do enjoy following along with you.

  • Britt at

    Hi Michael,

    I would echo the sentiment from the other comments at how much we appreciate you sharing your life which very much includes your personal journey and story!

    Please give yourself the grace to work through this time in your life. Change takes time, hard work and a lot of time spent outside your comfort zone to get there! Keep at it, keep your head up and keep us updated so we can encourage you along the way. Don’t allow the Instagram filtered world of others be your measurement, I hope you seek your own happiness and peace and recognize how much light you bring to the world just by being yourself!

    Wishing you all the best in 2018.

  • Nicole at

    I think you are great!! I like these posts. A life coach sounds like a great sounding board and guide. I wish I lived in Pittsburgh.

  • Tanya Derrey Bingham at

    I indentify with you so much, and find myself questioning where I’m at, what’s next. I had someone tell me when they feel like this they just do the next thing. Then the next thing after that, until things begin to feel more settled. And to have grace with ourselves, that one is hard. Hugs from WA xoxo Tanya

  • Phillip || SouthernFATTY.com at

    Totally happens! I think so highly of you for sharing this with everyone. A lot of people will certainly relate, as we’ve all been through these kinds of experiences at one time or another. How you handle it is most definitely what is important. You’re killing it and will keep doing so in the future, I’m sure. You’re a gem, and I’m excited to see what the future brings for you!

  • Karen Mary at

    So many warm wishes coming your way. You put so much beauty out there, Michael, and enhance so many people’s lives with your blog. I’m launching a blog next month, and—while we have different topics—I hope mine is half as meaningful to readers as yours! You’re an inspiration!

  • Christine E-E at

    Ummmm. As much as you think life is easier or better for people around you, MOST are in the same situation as you…. I call it “trying to figure out what I want to BE when I grow up” phase. And, I think that’s where you are right now. You have a new place, but haven’t found your people yet. Give it Time! The LIFE COACH appointment sounds like a fabulous start…. I was wondering if you are still thinking your current city is the place to be? Originally, I thought you said it was driveable from the house you just sold & it had a lot of the character you were seeking. MAYBE, there is another location that would serve you better?? A LIFE COACH would be able to help you figure that out. Have you thought about joining the Chamber of Commerce or a similar organization where you could meet new people? how about a dinner club? book club? or a gathering of people who have similar interests as you!! Something to consider. I would bet next year at this time you’ll be able to report that you’ve found a “niche” and have the comraderie of a group of people to enjoy all life has to offer! A final note… needing to take a break from social media is NOT a bad thing. It’s not an ALL OR NOTHING situation. We admire your honest, thoughtful posts as well as your creativity in design, cooking and home decor.

  • Christine E-E at

    Another thought…. have you considered traveling abroad…. taking a tour of your favorite country or two might be enlightening…. new decor & design ideas. new experiences. new friends. new subject matter for social media content. Maybe your best adventure for right now! It’s harder to travel when you have the responsibilities of home ownership. You’re young & the benefits from travel are amazing! Sign up for a two week tour with a reputable company & pack your bag.

  • SARA at

    You are an inspiration. Many people wouldn’t be as brave as you are to be so real and raw. I think we all go through times where we are lost,or just don’t feel like ourselves. I know i have. I don’t know you personally but, I only wish the best for you. I hope you find the path that leads you to the most joy and happiness a person can have.

  • Lindsay at

    The new year is always a hard time for me. Instead of the blank slate full of possibilities it seems to be for everyone else, it always feels like a reminder of the things I wanted that didn’t happen the year before. In 2017 I had 4 big goals for the year, and if I were to write down goals for 2018 they would be exactly the same. None of the big things I wanted happened, and not for lack of trying. It can be depressing. But what I’m trying (not always successfully) is to focus on the good things that DID happen. I hope you know how inspiring you are to people you don’t even know, and I hope you find the happiness you’re looking for. You have lots of people on your side!

  • Kim at

    I love seeing your life posts as well as the IBC ones. Prayers for your finding your way through this and being even better on the other side.

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  • Val at

    Hi Michael, I am in agreement with all of the wonderful people who commented prior to me about this blog post. I am going through a very tough life transition right now and it’s not easy. It’s hard not to compare yourself to where other peers are and that can bring you down or what you’re “expected” to be doing. After I was so hard on myself for many failed relationships or opportunities, I realized that each taught me something invaluable, even though I sure did not think it at the time. The greatest lesson was patience and recently, short term goals. Short ones to realistically live by and accomplish.
    And sometimes, we get so lost in our own bubble that we just do not see that so many others around us have trials they are going through, too. We just may fall down the rabbit hole of this is what we “should” be doing.
    We all know nothing is easy and it will come together with hard work and patience.
    I think the life coach is a fantastic idea and that may be just the soundboard you need to begin finding out who you really are and what inspires you.
    Best of luck with everything and I look forward to your posts this year, weaving us through your creativity and your personal updates. I’m excited for the journey! 😊

  • Carolyn at

    I’m in the same, yet opposite boat right now. A year ago we moved to Wyoming from Houston and it’s just not even close to what I thought. I love your blog and insta. Best of luck!!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      I feel ya. Sending lots of love your way. Hope you find your footing soon.

      xo Michael

  • Elizabeth B at

    I follow three blogs and yours is one that inspires me. You write as if we are sitting around a kitchen table and talking to us as friends. Thank you and continue to be yourself because that is what we as your followers like about you. Looking forward to future updates 😊

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      I’m so honored to be part of the three you follow. Honestly. Thank you for your kind words and continued support.

      xo Michael

      • Elizabeth at

        Oh my goodness I just realized you actually responded – thank you!!!

  • Alice at

    I’m a new reader and I’m old enough to be your grandma, and this post breaks my heart. You are amazing and so talented. I’m sure your life will turn around soon. Hang in there!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thank you, Alice. But don’t let it break your heart – here’s hoping it’s just a stepping stone. Thanks for reading.

      xo Michael

  • Mandi Pike/Mementos at

    Happy New Year Michael! I’ve been following you since the early B&B days and have ALWAYS been inspired by what you are doing at the time! Including now! You just took 3 weeks off like the rest of us. Time to regroup and decide what 2018 will be like! Sell the house, travel a bit, take some time to just be. OR get that new house, jump head first in to decorating and making it home! Both sound like great options….the cool thing is that you have options! You are so talented, you will succeed at whatever you decide to do. Hugs from California!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      I love your perspective and attitude, Mandi! Thank you so much. Hope you have a great year!

      xo Michael

  • Mairi at

    Sorry it has been proving so hard for you but delighted you are oushing through and going for the reboot.
    I love your style and your personality and find both inspiring!
    Wishing you all the best on this next stage of your journey 💕

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thank you Mairi! <3

      xo Michael

  • Linda Hanson at

    Love you,Michael! You are such an inspiration. So glad to see your update. With your talent and love of life, things are bound to improve.

  • Sherry at

    Hey, Michael! I’ve been following you for a long time. I absolutely adore you and your style. This post exposes your vulnerability and is the most touching, authentic blog post I have read in quite some time. Not many bloggers(or people) are willing to let down their walls like you have. So refreshing! I struggle daily with self doubt, so I haven’t stepped out to start my business or blog and it’s been buried in my heart for YEARS!

    I’m just finishing reading “Crash the Chatterbox” by Steven Furtick and it has blown my mind when it comes to fears and doubt creeping in. It’s faith-based, if that matters, just FYI. Also, following Jennifer Allwood on FB is quite empowering, especially for creative business owners. Check her out!

    And for just living your best life in general, Rachel Hollis ROCKS!!!! She runs a digital media company in LA, The Chic Site. Seriously, has helped me in more ways than I can even mention. Her audience is primarily female but the life altering truths that slay the lies we believe about ourselves applies to everyone! Follow her on Facebook.

    Lastly, you took a risk and moved to a new area, just because. That took courage! A huge leap of faith! Searching for that elusive “thing”, even if you aren’t sure what the thing is is something that 99% of people only talk about but never act on. Keep on keeping on because you are quite inspiring! You do you, live your best life! Xoxoxoxoxo

  • Geraldine at

    Hugs to you Michael. Your creativity, ideas, and inspiration bring a lot of joy to me and your other readers. The life coach sounds like a great way to stay on track with achieving your dreams.

  • Amy at

    Thanks for sharing Michael! I’m super proud of you for all the risks you take. You’re a great inspiration to many!! Wishing you lots of love and everything you desire and deserve! Cheers to a new and fabulous year!!

  • loly at

    happy to hear from you. love your voice and honesty, I think the truth is more people struggle but are too afraid to admit it. No shame, no worries. You actually get unlimited do-overs. Enjoy the ride. Fall in total love with you. Do what feeds your soul. Ultimately you are the only one you have to please, Thanks for sharing your journey with us!

  • Liz Marie at

    I loved reading this update. I think of you often & I hope you know how loved you are by so many. You are so inspiring & we are all rooting you on. I can’t tell you how much I can relate to so much of what you said… so so much. You are not alone. Hugs friend! xx

  • Sarah at

    I’ve felt that “haze” too, and this sounds a lot like how I felt for most of 2016. It took a while, but I am in a totally different place now, and I’m so glad I allowed myself a little forgiveness then. I now realize it was “before ___” and leading me to really great things. So, you don’t be too hard on yourself about “should” and savor these “before” moments. After it came love and deeper friendships and some personal growth I really needed. From the looks of the comments above, you have plenty of people rooting for you too! I am excited to see what 2018 will bring you. Also, I am pretty sure this might be the first year I will be at the same conference as you, so I hope we get to actually meet! First glass o’ wine is on me! 😉 Best wishes for 2018!

    • Andrea Smoak at

      Hi Sarah,

      I had a chance to visit your website and it’s awesome. I’m so happy you’re back on track and inspiring others. I also had to follow on Insta.

  • Dana at

    Thank you so much for your post. I am a log time reader. I am so inspired by your candor and bravery. It’s not easy to admit things aren’t where you want them to be. I think you will find most everyone can relate to a season in our lives like that. Praying this tough season for you makes way for lots of wonderful opportunities, growth and happiness. Thank you for your continued inspiration, both with your honesty and design! ❤️

  • Andrea Smoak at

    Hello Micheal,

    It’s your Girlfriend Next Door, Andrea. I have followed you for years now, and to be honest you were one my first inspirations for blogging. I too have struggled with moving and finding friends. Hence, why I started, Your Girlfriend Next Door, it simply started as a way for me to express myself.
    I have moved to four states, supporting my husband’s career, and boy it has not been easy. I find as you get older it’s really difficult penetrating friend circles and winning peoples trust. I feel in society we have this one eye open mentality. Not to be bombed I have just simply tried to fall in love with myself and truly send out positive energy, in hopes that will come back to me. Honestly, I have found myself communicating with people online more and more. At first, I was afraid, but I noticed we were all in the same boat. I’ve found some really cool people, but as you know it not the same as having your go-to tribe around the corner.
    I commend you for your courage. I think, you have created a safe place, IBC, not only do you inspire, but it feels real and we all have connected with you. Honestly, I know you’re on your journey of discovery and direction but I do have one question. You have such knowledge and been such an inspiration to many. Have you ever thought about consulting? Sometimes feeding into others can be so rewarding. If you ever, please allow me to be your first client!!! You have touched so many hearts around the country and abroad, and as I mentioned to you before your gift is contagious. I’m not sure what your plans are or what your biggest dream actually looks like, but you’ve been my inspiration and I would simply like to say thank you. Each time I visit IBC, I smile and leave extremely happy and inspired.

  • Elaine at

    Thank you for being so candid. Talking helps so keep bending our ears. We are all here for you and supporting you from afar. What you are feeling is quite normal and I’m sure most of us can relate. You are not alone. Us cyber friends are here for you!

  • Roeshel at

    Wishes for a 2018 bigger and better than you can imagine!

  • Albert at

    Hey Michael! I’ve never commented before, and can’t even remember how I found out about you in the first place, but I’ve been following you ever since to enjoy (and be envious) of all the creative work you do. I live in Chicago, but in a small condo and feel very constrained by what I can do creatively, so your inspiration has been fun to see and get ideas from.

    I see you’re going to work with a life coach. I have some background experience in working with one and doing a little training myself in becoming one, thought not actually doing it. I say this as encouragement for you to fully embrace what coaching brings you, but also to have a level head on expectations. I can honestly say that coaching taught me a lot about my core values and belief systems that I wasn’t aware existed. It’s not a magic pill, but it did bring me a huge sense of self awareness in areas I hadn’t thought of, and that helped me in many ways!

    Also, about that big city life in Pittsburgh… It’s been 7 months right? I’m sure everyone says “hang in there”, but, truth be told, 7 months is a short time in a big city, even like Chicago. As a gay man myself, I’ve met many people in Chicago who have said it’s hard to make new friends and that it takes time. I’ve lived here for 20+ years and have had many of my friends move away over the years. As a result, I feel now, at 51, like I’m kind of starting all over in trying to find ways to meet new people and make new friends, and that’s as a married guy! Point is, if Chicago is hard for people to meet new friends, then I guess Pittsburgh probably is too. 😉

    Anyway, extra long comment here, but your post struck a note with me.

  • Ashley Allen at

    Michael, I honestly felt like I was reading about my own life and the current state of it minus the move. In my brain I have all of these goals, dreams and places that I want my life and blog to go but somehow I just end up with the same old things year after year. I want so badly for this year to be different but once you’ve been stuck so long it can be very difficult to get out. I have a hard time even finding the motivation to do the things I know I need to do to take myself further… So with that said I feel your pain and hope that we can both find some way out and that 2018 is a much better year for us!

  • Char at

    Remember when you are taking the blame, you should also be accepting praise – for your courage and determination, for your creativity and open heart and for a million other positive attributes. Be as kind to yourself as I know you are to others.

  • Patricia Beaulieu at

    Lots of great comments here, saying pretty much what I might have said 🙂 One thing I will say though… Take your time, do what is best for *you*. If that means we wait a little longer between your posts, that’s okay. We’ll all be here when you return. I wish you all the best and hope things start looking up for you soon. Hugs… Pat

  • Colette at

    I think you are so amazing and honest. Life is unpredictable-but worth it. So happy you are taking positive steps and recognize that you need some outside insight. I will be praying for you-don’t be embarrassed-we are here for you-saying a prayer 😀

  • Julie at

    I just love your posts. I look forward to them weekly. I don’t even know how I found you, but I fell in love with your blueberry muffin recipe and it’s history ever since. I wish you nothing but peace, love and happiness. Thank you for sharing your life and your recipes and ideas. Good Luck on your house hunting. I’m excited for you.

  • Amy K at

    OK – I’ve read all of these comments and they’re all good but I’m going to take a different road on this one. I feel like I’m your mother in saying – WHAT??? Look in the mirror Michael. You’re an amazing cook, amazing decorator with many kudos, you have a huge following – everywhere!!! People you don’t know love you. You’re A.MA.ZING!! Stop trying to figure it all out and just live everyday to the fullest. Not every day will be full and exciting but if you look in the right places you’ll see that it’s all amazing! Appreciate the mundane and it becomes something very special. You’ve heard it before that you have a special gift – all true. You have the perfect platform for using that gift and we all appreciate you so much. Look in the mirror Michael. You’re A.MA.ZING!!

  • Sarah at

    Making friends as an adult is HARD! I moved twice for work and both times I thought it took a year to make some friends that you feel know you. And two years to feel at home. So don’t give up yet! Now I’ve been in my current city for 7 years and I feel I need to start over with making new friends. My friends have moved or moved on to different seasons of their lives. I wish you the best with all of your changes. Sometimes we get stuck in a rut and it is hard to identify the culprit. I wish you the best!

    Also, I don’t care if you complain, it keeps you real, and that is why I follow you! Do whatever you need to be happy. We will support you no matter what.

  • Karen Combs at

    Here’s a big hug from Dallas– we have the empty nester thing down pat and truly enjoy it but are finding our home and neighborhood isn’t giving us what we need anymore– it’s hard and it takes time to figure out which way to go. I just know good things are waiting for you! And if you ever get too bored, I’d love you to decorate my house!!

  • Linda at

    Hang in there Michael! You’re the best! XXOO

  • Pam at

    Not a grown up alive hasn’t felt like you seem to be feeling. And guess what, sometimes they never find it because they quit. You haven’t, so bravo for you! Sometimes there are lessons in journeys you cannot learn without that journey and that can be all this is something you are learning. I will say prayers for you, its hard to see such a talented wonderful man seem so down. Go up from here!

  • Talia at

    What a timely post! I have been driving the struggle bus lately (and by lately, I mean for quite some time!) and finally have an appointment with a therapist. (I am NOT suggesting you or anyone needs one, just stating what I needed!). I have found myself with quite a bit of time on my hands, and frankly, don’t know how to fill it so that I feel fulfilled. Making friends is hard and loneliness is real.

    Thank you for your transparency. It is my hope that you are able to find what it is you are looking for and that it will bring you joy and a sense of fulfillment. Your talents are bountiful and everything you touch is made beautiful. Wishing you much luck on your journey – keep us posted! And again, thank you for your vulnerability and honesty – it helps to connect and engage all of us.

  • Jana at

    First, go easy on yourself! I can’t even tell you how many times you’ve inspired me to try something new or taught me how to do something that was previously a mystery (hello, Christmas tree ribbon!). Second, it’s not unusual or ANYTHING to be embarrassed about to be uncertain of your destination. Sometimes it’s important to remember that although life may be short, it’s also long. Enjoy where you are right this minute. It’s a shame I’m not closer, or I’d insist you join me for drinks and we’d discuss each of these points ad nauseam.

  • Tricia at

    Please don’t have self doubt. Your blog is one of my absolute favorites. Moving is very hard. I did it many years ago (Massachusetts to Ohio) with a new baby and new job for my husband. Started out in an apartment but moved to a house after 11 months. Everything got better once we were in a house and neighborhood. Good luck to you and keep up your good work. You are very talented in so many ways.

  • Barb at

    Wow! From the number of comments I believe you have more friends than you realize. I’m new to IBC and have enjoyed your writing and frank honesty. Sometimes we give ourselves deadlines and feel let down when our goals are not met. Relax—timed goals not met doesn’t mean they are not happening. I live outside Pittsburgh in the North Hills and one thing to remember is the gray winter days have a way of bringing you down. Enjoy the day and relish the moments. Good things are coming your way!

  • kris at

    Thank you for posting this. I appreciate your honesty and I, sincerely, hope that everything works out for you. I am 45 and finally feel that I may be on the path that is meant for me. I wish you the best of luck in finding your own way. I thank you for taking us on this journey with you. Hugs.

  • Kim at

    Hi Michael, I see you, I feel you, and I pray for you. I have only recently gotten into the DIY, reading blogs and creating things and so far your blog, ideas, videos are my favorite and just look at the responses you get. You DO have a tribe that follows you where ever you go! Your blogs reflect the same struggles though different circumstances that we all have. Though I haven’t physically moved my world changed when I was diagnosed with Lupus in 2014. I went from a wonderful career full of fashion, cocktail parties, changing others lives to so sick I couldn’t get out of bed. This year I started crafting, created a make shift craft room, etc etc ( I feel like I should write my own blog) sorry for mumbling on but I just wanted you to know that something as simple as your learn how to make a. christmas bow video made me so happy this year. I had a freaking Mardis gras making Christmas bows! (Lol). You make a difference. That’s all I really wanted to say. Xoxo Kim

  • Peggy Moser at

    Michael, I have relocated 8 different times for business. Each time I was super excited and certain I would find an exciting new life. The reality is it is very difficult to relocate as a single person and walk into a great work and/or social life. If you have children relocation is much easier. My lessons learned too late are: 1. Push yourself to get out, even to a flower stand and start talking to people. Who knows what you will learn or who you will meet, 2. If the city has social clubs comprised of many different organizations, join, join, join. There are hiking groups, cooking clubs, garden clubs, etc. I feel certain Pittsburgh would have these. 3. If you have any religious affiliations, join a church or two and see what they have to offer. One local church here is made up of mostly blue collar older people yet it has one of the best singles clubs I have ever seen, so you never know. 4. Take a class at a local community college or big blue Pitt, 5. Volunteer in something that interests you. There are many others, like I said that I discovered too late. I lived in some great cities, San Jose, San Francisco, Cleveland, Chicago, and Baltimore and other than San Francisco, I didn’t reach out and find out what the cities could DO FOR ME. Take your time and don’t be hard on yourself. You have made some serious life changes plus working from home does not provide you with immediate work family “friends”. I have been there and feel your pain. Best wishes from a reader who is old enough to be your mother. Go for it!

  • Linda at

    You are so talented and touch so many people’s lives through this blog – don’t ever forget that. Your 2017 looked like a banner year to me – you accomplished so much, were recognized in magazines, and moved and decorated a new home! Social media makes us all think everyone else has it all together. Comparison is the thief of joy! Besides, most of life isn’t made-up of highs and lows, but LOTS of in-betweens. Every day think of 3 things to be thankful for, and then just go and do your best. Life happens when you are busy making other plans.

  • Merna Clemens at

    Micheal,you have so many followers ! My words of support and wisdom have all been written. I just wanted to add that’s it’s always taken me a long time to settle comfortably into a new life (ie. years!). Hang in there. One day you’ll wake up and realize your there.
    I also am interested in your house search. Prayers for you. ” nana Micki “.

  • Amie Freling at

    Hey there Michael! Life is full of highs and lows and things always work out for the better. ALWAYS! You will make whatever house you find a beautiful warm and inviting HOME! We are all there for you. Well I am at least if you need to chat.YOU are an inspiration to many and no one is Superman so taking time off to recharge is well needed. love you!

  • Linda at

    YOU SOLD A HOUSE WITH THE CONTENTS!!! Maybe you should be out there flipping houses – and making lots of $$

  • Effie at

    Sorry to hear that you’re going through a bit of a rough patch. Hope thngs get better soon. Wishing you all the best! 🙂

  • phyllis at

    I am a relatively new reader to your blog, but you certainly don’t present yourself as a “sad Sam”. I do sense an overwhelming sense of sadness and frustration in this post, but I also know that you have posted the events in your life over the past year as productive and seemingly positive. I think that you are feeling what we all feel at times; but yours may be lasting for a longer period of time than what some feel. I am not a psychologist, but I think you are attempting all the right things. If I can give an unprofessional opinion, it seems that you need to find a way to connect to a friend (or a few friends) in a deeper way. I cannot tell you how to do that, but I know that if we lived close, you would be the exact type of person I’d love to have as a friend and to do many things with. I’m sure your personality would be one many people would like. Making new friends is not easy, but continue to put yourself out there and to seek groups of like minded persons. Perhaps getting a part time job in a design firm or some similar business would bring more of those types of persons into your life. See the life coach or a psychologist or any other person you can meet and talk with regularly. Join a book club if you can find one that is a mixed group of ages and sexes as I think you attract a variety of people with your interests and abilities. My best piece of advice is to stop beating yourself up; what you have accomplished in the past year does not reflect failure in any sense of the word. I hope that you can make connections that are close by and see where they lead you. Continue this blog and getting a new home will only increase the amount of blog material we’d all love to read. I am pulling for you and hope that your happiness factor increases tenfold or more this year. You are liked and loved by your many blog readers. (BTW- don’t underestimate the depressing “climate” we are all living under due to the politics of this past year. Many persons are deeply depressed about the hatred and vitriol being broadcast every day. Take a break from the tv or social media on a regular basis if that’s what you need to do)

  • Jennifer at

    Brave. That is what comes to my mind when I think of you, Michael. My husband’s family is from Upper Saint Clair in Pittsburgh and it is lovely! The people are genuine and the setting is gorgeous. Continue being brave! Write that book, publish that blog posting, trust in yourself! We do.

  • Nancy at

    Michael don’t think you are alone. Thirty years ago I got married and left my small town where I had a lot of friends. I moved thinking how easy it would be to find and make friends. It was much harder than I would ever have imagined and I’m a friendly person!! Thirty years later I have made friends who I cherish. My daughter moved three years ago and is in the same boat as you. New Friendships are are hard to find making unhappiness ooze in making you feel depressed. Don’t give up!!! You will find and make friends who are worthy of you. In the mean, take time to think want your are looking for, get out everyday (Pittsburgh is gloomy on these cold winter days), and keep inspiring the rest of us, you have a talent for decorating and style. You’ll find your way. Who knows I may run into you somewhere in Pittsburgh. I’ll introduce myself and give you more motherly advice and maybe you’ll help me with my decorating!!! Be well and find things to make “the cup half full” instead of seeing it half empty!!! Looking forward to your new inspirations!!!

  • Julie A at

    Hi Michael, even though you are not where you though you would be – don’t be so hard on yourself! Some of are still striving every day to find what we think we want out of life. It is a constantly evolving process. You stated that you have made a few friends, and are genuinely enjoying the urban location. Keep on doing the things you love, the others will fall into place, maybe not quite on your timeline, but continue to be YOU! There are so many of us that follow you and love you for who you are – always remember that. Looking forward to hearing more! Julie, in Idaho

  • Sueour at

    Michael, don’t be so hard on yourself. Just be yourself and and hang in there.

  • Rebecca at

    We’re rooting for you, Michael! Just follow your heart, friend.

  • Susan at

    It’s funny I opened an email from you the very day I was rereading your article in the Christmas BH&G magazine. You are so funny and talented and willing to put yourself out there. Just remember life is a journey, not a destination, and you don’t know what the future holds and what you will encounter next. Hiring a life coach sounds like a great idea. I wish you all the best and enjoy your honest and open posts.

  • angie at

    Hi Michael, Have you read any literature about Highly Sensitive People? (Elaine Aron has an informative book, “The Highly Sensitive Person”. I also like the website “The Happy Sensitive” Caroline Van Kimmenade.) When I read your blog, especially when you share deeper personal matters, I sense that you’re a person of DEEP feelings and a KEEN awareness of all thing sensory. It’s what makes you special! But it can also make life challenging. Perhaps this doesn’t resonate at all with you, but I’m offering it up as a sincere and heartfelt desire to encourage you along in your journey. I think readers ‘get you’, but I wonder if you feel often as many of us HSP’s do, that people you meet don’t ‘get you’? Also, I’m not a churchy kind of person, but I do think so many in today’s world have a God-shaped hole in their hearts. I can’t deny how the spirit of God can penetrate all forms of darkness. Perhaps there is a church or fellowship group that would provide you with meaningful connections. God, after all, does work through people. Nothing to lose, right? Try something new! Renew your faith. Keep being real, doing what you do, and KNOW that the light and beauty you share will all come back to you. Thanks for the inspiration. Gobs! xoxo

  • sydney85 at

    Hi Michael, I really enjoy reading your blog. I read many blogs but there are times when I cannot read them all but I always make sure I read your blog. Making friends and finding interesting activities takes time no matter where you are and you are very new to Pittsburgh. I wish you well and obviously lots of other readers do too. We are all looking forward to amazing articles in the future.

  • Ann at

    Hi Michael, I’ve been reading your blog for a good while and I find them to be interesting and enlightening. I’ve stopped subscribing to most of the blogs that I had followed. You are so very creative and I hope you continue. It sounds like your comments came from the heart. That took courage. I admire your moving. We were in the military for twenty years. When we were very young, we were stationed in a small village in northern Greece. Sounds wonderful and exciting and in some ways, it was. But in many ways I realized that I was one of those people who was afraid to venture outside. It was terrifying for me to venture to the grocer or down the street. But I made myself do it. Made a fool of myself more than once trying to buy groceries and not speaking Greek correctly. But having said all that, my youngest moved to Pittsburgh for two years for a residency at UPMC. Could I make a suggestion that you try to volunteer some at the hospital. I’ll bet you’ll meet some great people there In the spring there are wonderful outside concerts where everyone packs picnics. Lots of talented folks. And last of all, take an interesting class and get out and enjoy the many sports. And if you decide to move try Charlottesville, VA. It’s beautiful with so many things to do. Good luck and I’ll say a little prayer for you.

  • Lisa Foulon at

    Michael, can I make a suggestion? About a few years ago my daughter was feeling at a crossroads too and just unsure of what she could do about it. She said, “Mom, I need to go on a soul trip. I encouraged her to do it. She didn’t make any reservations and just packed a small bag, and her camera and headed out on an adventure. Before she left she “unplugged” herself from social media, and only kept me accessible on her phone. She is by no means a “nature girl” but ended up in a tranquil spot with cabins the first nite. She had a nice dinner and then walked on the nature trails with her camera in tow. She left that spot the next day and continued her adventure. She ended up in Niagara Falls that day and explored, the next day she headed back towards home and found a small charming town full of cute shops and streets. She decided to stay that night and come home the next morning. She came home excited and full of wonderful stories. She did a lot of thinking and contemplating what she liked about her life and what she didn’t like, and she made a mental plan to change it. Every month after her return I saw changes in her, very positive changes. She cut out everyone and everything in her life that was negative and bringing her down. Then she focussed on positive people in her life and positive things she wanted to do with her life.
    She still fondly talks to everyone about her “soul trip” and how being away from everything gave her focus and clarity about what she needed to do to find more happiness in her life. She tells everyone that if they haven’t yet, they should do a “soul trip” at least once in their lives, just to “disconnect from the stresses and the normal routines” even for a short time.
    We are often too hard on ourselves and put too much pressure on “where we should be, how we should be, and what we should be doing.
    I have followed you for years, and you are amazing and extremely talented. You have greats things headed your way in your future Michael, don’t put too much pressure on yourself to have it all happen right now.
    Take a “soul trip”! Do it for you and only you!
    You will feel much better!
    P.S…. I’d love to know how it goes!!! Big hugs!

  • Karin at

    Thank you for not being perfect! Your struggles illustrate feelings most of us encounter to varying degrees. I have found again and again that there are usually no simple solutions. I, too have tried running away (relocating). Even though moving 8,000 miles from home did have a significant impact on the overall trajectory of my life, the problems at the core remained. I am in my fifties, seemingly old and smart enough to know better, right? It’s life’s way of teaching us. Until we get to the core of what is truly holding us down, none of the outward changes will have a profound and lasting impact. You are on the right path. I look forward to the insights working with a life coach will give you. And You are a gifted blogger, don’t ever doubt that.

  • Bonnie W. at

    Remember these things:
    1. You are awesome!
    2. What you are going thru is perfectly normal.
    3. If you can learn to navigate Pittsburgh, you can do anything!!! (I grew up 90 miles South of Pittsburgh and still take the scenic route when visiting therel.
    4. You are going thru a personal growth stage so there will be some bumpy roads ahead but you will emerge happier and wiser for your journey!

    P.S. If you get in another funk, contact me. I have a Master’s in Social Work.

  • Veronica at

    I love your blog, style, and recipes! Your blog is one of the handful that I visit regularly. You always create interesting content and never seem like you are “phoning it in” like some of the other bloggers out there. I have a suggestion for if you would like to get feel like a part of the community. Have you ever thought about donating your considerable creative talents to some place like the Carnegie Museums and Library? The Pittsburgh Center for Creative Reuse, The Greater Pittsburgh Arts Council, The Mattress Factory, Heritage Hospice, and Art Expression are also looking for creative people like you to volunteer. You would meet a lot of people and feel good about giving back!

  • Mari at

    This post was amazing and extremely encouraging to me. Thank you for being so honest. You are truly inspiring.

  • Mandy Gainey at

    It will all come together. I love your post, your design style and seeing your homes. If I knew you in real life I’m sure we’d be friends.

  • jae at

    Sending you a big hug! And hoping you find contentment, which often starts within oneself. it is challenging to make a new start, and I think you are brave to do so. Your posts are a delight to follow; you are talented, well spoken and creative. Give yourself some time, keep looking for social opportunities, maybe volunteer? Does your local library or college offer free or low cost book clubs, etc? You have lots of people cheering you on, and I hope you have the best 2018 imaginable!

  • Michael Wurm Jr at

    Hello ALL! I had intentions on responding to each and every one of you because you have all been SO GRACIOUS and KIND and WONDERFUL. While I know I have THE BEST readers, I never expected such a wonderful response. Thank you. Thank you!! I’ll do my best to respond to as many as I can. However, I wanted to pop in to thank you all SOOOOOO much for your comments, emails, texts, etc. You have all filled my heart so much. I’ve also learned, gathered, and considered alllll of your suggestions. I’m certain many will extremely helpful. Thank you again and again for all of your support love and encouragement. It means the world to me!

    xo Michael

  • Lisa at

    Michael, I have been enjoying your blog for a little over a year now. I love how open and honest you are. We all struggle at different times and it doesn’t make you a failure. Only by failing at something so we learn and grow towards what we will be, and who we are. It means you are trying and achieving the life you want.
    Keep on going. Seven months is not that much time when you consider the tremendous changes you have made.
    I love your style!

    PS- I was born and raised in Pittsburgh. Moved after college but still go back regularly. It’s an amaIng place.

  • Ivory at

    I just found and joined your site, and love what I’ve seen. I hope you will not give up. Instead, just keep strong, and praying, and I am sure you will be put on the right road, good luck on your house search. Really, this is the fun time, so long as your write down what you want, what you would be willing to let go of, if the home do not have that one thing. Always remember, this could be a home you live in for sometime, so go slow if that’s what you need to do. As for your move to Pittsburgh, that too, will workout. You seem like a lovely person, one who is fun to get to know, and hangout with. In time more new friends will come into your life. Just remember, things happens for a reason.

  • terry taylor at

    In my other life (WAS married to a corporate climber) we transferred alot. It honestly took a year to get to know new locations. Funny thing was, we almost always transferred after one year so that was difficult for me and my two children. (btw, we have since lived in one place now for 20 years!) Give it time…. you’ll make more friends, find new favorite spots, maybe even fall in love. You’ll be fine! be happy! .

  • Bettye Greenwood at

    As you can see we have all been in your shoes in one form or another. Have you thought about connecting with other bloggers in the Pittsburgh area? Or perhaps teaching a class on blogging in their community Adult Ed programs? I have found (as an introvert) that regular consistent contact with others is the key to making friends. This too shall pass.

  • Funky Junk Interiors - Donna at

    Wow, this post certainly opens up so many new potential directions to take! Thanks for being so brave and putting it out there.

    By the looks of it, others can relate to these kinds of internal struggles. Perhaps it’s time to branch into more blogging about life in general? I know I’m hungry to hear what works and what doesn’t!

    And moving your home will be a BIG exciting topic! Can’t wait to see where yo ultimately land.

    I’m rethinking adding a few more topics to my blogging agenda myself. Life is so seldom perfect yet that’s what we attempt to portray online. Perhaps a little reality could be a nice balance…

    Regardless on how you move forward, I’ll be watching.

    • Funky Junk Interiors - Donna at

      Meant to add… I’d love nothing more than to follow some new-to-you travels into that big world out there! Including places you stayed, etc. I know you do a lot of traveling through sponsors however off the beaten track and more time spent may spur on unexpected adventure you didn’t even know you needed.

  • KImberly at

    Michael, you are such a bright light that your joy has shown through in spite of the tough times that you’ve been experiencing. So it’ s particularly important that you share when you are down so that we can all be supportive of you. Your transparency is part of what makes you authentic. Your blog is amazing- you are creative both with food and decor, you’re a fabulous writer and you are genuine. All of those things make your blog compelling.
    So happy that you are working with a life coach to get some guidance on what you want to do. Crossing my fingers that blogging continues to be a part of your future but if not I wish you happiness in whatever direction you head.

  • Erin Hoskins at

    “These” kinds of posts are what make you a real person and the reason so many of us follow you. Hiring a life coach is a great idea! It will be good to have someone in your corner encouraging you to do the (sometimes) hard things and celebrate your successes. I admire you for pushing forward as that can be hard when the self doubt creeps in.

    Congrats on selling your home! Obviously the universe thinks you should be in Pittsburgh.
    Take care!

  • Kimberly at

    Sorry for the double entry. Just read post that I thought you might relate to. It’s at http://www.hommemaker.com. I don’t know how much bloggers overlap but Orlando might be someone to talk to about what you’re going through on the blogging/personal front.

  • Michael Johnson at

    Stay true to yourself Michael, Your message is heard way down here in Melbourne Australia.
    I truly appreciate your honest message as too few people put themselves out there today and instead hide behind a facade. You are a true person and I, and, from what I read, many of your readers value your truth and of course all the wonderful design and decorating ideas.
    Warm regards
    Michael Johnson

  • Janette @ The 2 Seasons at

    Michael, I haven’t met you, but I have thought about you ever since reading this post. Have you considered taking up a sport like bicycling? There are great bike clubs in most cities, and they embrace new cyclists. I bet you would find friends with common interests there. Then you could take on the challenge of biking form Pittsburgh to DC on the trail. We have done it the last six years, and it is so much fun. The thing about biking is that you can go as fast or as slowly as you want, and there will be someone who cycles that same speed with you.

  • Julie at

    Oh I enjoyed your post. We all have these times in our lives that are “uncomfortable “ to say the least. You are honest and that makes you humanly imperfect like the rest of us. That’s what makes you special. I’m currently feeling like that now. You will find a “home” in due time and it will be so fun to decorate wilth your impeccable style. I enjoy your feed and blog so much. It lifts my spirits to see the things you create and that I can do that too!! Keep your chin up! Sometimes life throws you lemons…so just make some lemonade!! Thanks for your decorating inspiration and your honesty. Here’s to feeling better soon!! Remember lots of others can relate. YOU ARE AWESOME!!

  • JoEllen Giani at

    I love your little updates – even if you feel you are repeating yourself, or your life isn’t quite where you expected. You are so genuine and sincere. I have missed you on Insta though!! Post more pretty pics there please! After reviewing, again, your recap of 2017, I can’t help but think how much I would love a seasonal cookbook from IBC. You take such beautiful pictures and you have such fresh and lovely ideas. If I would love a cookbook, I’m sure others would to. Maybe even a quick little ebook??? At any rate, I’m excited to follow you through your home buying experience and I can’t wait to see where you take us next! Cheers!

  • michele at

    you sound so uncertain right now, but let me tell you: everything you’ve just written sounds incredibly brave to me! you are daring for something better, and you are going to make it happen … no strings! we are all pulling for you, and every single one of us would be your best friend and help you house hunt over brunch. you do what you need to do, and we will all be in your corner, cheering you on, waiting for that next amazing interior or cocktail recipe. this is an adventure for you; see it for the opportunity it is, knowing all along that there are so, so many people who have your back and want nothing but the best for you. and if you reach that point of “i just can’t right now,” there is no failure in that. listen to your heart and your gut, and you’ll find the perfect next project when it’s meant to be.

  • Fran at

    Oh Michael! If I had a son, he would be you and I would be so proud! A few years ago I did an experiment on myself. Being a born and bred Pittsburgher living in Oklahoma, I had the opportunity to move back east to Edinboro, near Erie and a few hours north of family. Well, like you, it was not to be. After a year and dealing with too much snow, I moved back to Oklahoma since my home was paid off.

    At least we tried something new and evaluated the circumstances before it was too late. I’m enjoying your discovery of my home and favorite city. Take care, Fran

  • Pam at

    Hi Michael, this is the first personal post I’ve read of yours so please don’t feel like you’re inundating us with information. If anything, I’m sure this post makes quite a few of us feel better about ourselves because we identify with your situation. I love honesty and thank you so much for not trying to sell us stuff all the time. Congratulations on selling your house! Buying a home seems so out of reach for myself and others in my area because homes are so expensive here. But it sounds like a lovely goal to one day accomplish. You seem like a good guy so keep being you.

  • Cathy Clark at

    Michael, you are just the sweetest person! Life is hard & even at my age (old!!!), I’m discontent & wonder if I’ve done anything worthwhile in life (deep down I know I have), but I do feel that way sometimes, as I’m sure others do as well!
    You have touched so many people’s lives-just look at all the comments here! You are so very talented & we’ve all learned so much from you! I think you are way too hard on yourself! Just give yourself some more time & probably when you least expect it, happiness, a new home, a relationship, whatever you want/need will come your way!
    I’ll be praying for you every day that 2018 is your year & things will start improving for you!!!

  • Cathy Clark at

    My niece lives in Cranberry Township right outside of Pittsburgh & they love it there! It’s very nice close to the city!

  • Michelle Santia at

    Hang in there Michael. Transition anytime in life isn’t easy. At 50-years-young I encourage you to start with what you CAN change or affect. Do good for others and see what doors open for you!

  • Nicole at

    You are such a bright star in this dark world! Please know you are a huge inspiration to so many of us. I adore your posts and even though I don’t know you personally I feel such a bond with you. Keep shining!

  • Claire at

    Hi Michael! I discovered your blog a few months ago and love your style! I just found this post as I was browsing and wanted to welcome you to Pittsburgh! I live in Lawrenceville with my dog and fiance in a little rowhouse near the Kaleidoscope Cafe. My friends and I love making new friends and inviting new people in to our small group of fun people! Don’t hesitate to reach out and grab a drink with us at the Allegheny Wine Mixer!

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