As you may know, I recently took time off from Instagram. Last week I shared what I accomplished during my short hiatus. In this post I wanted to talk about some of the things I learned while I was offline at home, the benefits of being off the app, and how I plan to manage my time moving forward.

My time away from Instagram was extremely eye-opening, and probably “life-changing” to some extent. If you’re looking to alter your habits with the app (or your phone in general), I hope this post offers inspiration and guidance. I have a lot to say, so please bear with me.

Before I go any further, I need to note that I’m writing this post as Michael, the human being behind IBC, who has thoughts, feelings, concerns, and a big ol’ sensitive heart. This post comes out of a place of love and caring for anyone who might find it beneficial. This post is based on my personal experience. This post isn’t intended as a judgment of anyone else’s way of living life. You’re welcome to disagree and do things differently. We are all trying to figure out what works for us as we go through our days. Do what makes sense for your soul. For your heart. For where you are in your journey.

I read through this post many times, edited my words, and tried to be as sensitive as possible while still telling my story. I always try to do my best, and realize I won’t get it right every time. Thank you for your grace and understanding.

 

Lessons Learned: My Time Off Instagram #instagram #break

Why I Needed Time Off Instagram:

There’s a good chance you LOVE your time on Instagram and may think “a break” is crazy. This wasn’t the case for me. Here’s why.

First, based on my phone data, I was spending at least 2.5 hours on the app each day. That’s 912.5 hours or 38 days per year. When I looked at my overall time on my phone, it ranged from 4-5 hours a day. That means I spent 1,825 hours or 76 days per year looking at my phone.

Those numbers were eye-opening for me. Based on my life goals, there are so many things I would rather be doing than looking at a screen, and yet, I was spending a little more than a fifth of each year on my phone.

Second, although I enjoy finding out what’s new, being inspired by others’ ideas, and seeing what my friends are doing, scrolling so much has frequently left me feeling a lot of things I don’t want to feel.

Too often I would compare myself to others. I’m one of those people who struggle with feelings of “not enough” (which I’m working on and getting better at) but scrolling exacerbated those feelings. And, as we know, social media is a place for people to share their highlights, so it’s so easy and tempting to compare.

I got jealous. Jealousy is a slippery slope and not something I’m proud to feel, but it happens. I would watch as people had “everything” and did “everything,” and it would bum me out. Instead of focusing on the many blessings in my life – my family and friends, my home, my opportunities – I found myself wanting things I didn’t have.

I didn’t have this revelation until my break, but I found that scrolling and consuming social media overloaded my brain with information. It made me feel inferior, like I needed to be doing all of the incredible things I was seeing. Of course, I realize that isn’t possible for one person, but the feeling was there. Instead of focusing on my to-do list and goals, all of a sudden I needed to read this book someone recommended, update my throw pillows with the new style, clean out my junk drawer, start an herb garden, make the new cocktail recipe, try this new type of paint, check out a new app, and so on. The pressure was unending.

Beyond all of that, I must tell you that Instagram is one of my favorite things and favorite social media apps. But, as the platform changed and algorithms emerged, I started to dislike it. It’s tough because I use Instagram for my business as well. It’s an important tool that allows me to make a living doing what I do. While I don’t get it right every time, my goal is to strike a balance between what I share for the sheer joy of it (non-sponsored content) and what is linked for revenue.

 

The Parameters for My Instagram Break:

I went cold turkey. I planned to take two weeks off the app. On Sunday night before I went to bed, I deleted the app from my phone. Two weeks later, on Monday, I reinstalled the app.

My only connection with the app was via my Facebook business page where I could access my direct messages. From a business standpoint, it was important to be able to do this. And I only did it a couple of times during those two weeks.

As my hiatus approached, I had major doubts about it. I didn’t know how I was going to manage. I was even telling myself that it was okay if I made the break shorter.

However, when the time finally came to sign-off, I couldn’t have been more excited. And when it was time for my break to be over, I had little desire to sign back on.

 

Lessons Learned: My Time Off Instagram #instagram #break

What I Loved About My Time Off Instagram:

This was one of the best decisions I’ve made in a while. As I said above, the experience and the perspective it gave me was “life-changing” in several ways.

The first noticeable change was how much time I spent on my phone. It dropped from 5 hours a day to 1.5 hours a day. Pretty amazing, right?

Because I wasn’t constantly picking up my phone to check Instagram, the time I spent doing other things on my phone also went down. I even stopped carrying my phone with me everywhere. There were many occasions when I didn’t know where my phone was. Talk about freeing!

A second strange and unforeseen effect was that my house stayed cleaner. I think this was due to a combination of things.

Because my hand was free a lot more, I tended to put things away. I also didn’t feel so rushed, so I took the time to keep things tidy.

An example of this was my bathroom sink. Typically, I leave things out on my sink because I’m in a hurry, but during those two weeks, my bathroom sink stayed clean and uncluttered. This wasn’t intentional at all, but it was something I observed and loved.

A third noticeable change was my mood. This was significant. In general, I found myself feeling happier, more motivated, and less irritable. This alone is one reason I want to spend less time on the app (and my phone in general). I removed the temptation to feel “not enough” or jealous. And although I hope that someday I can be better about managing these feelings while on social media, removing them from my path has proven helpful.

And speaking of motivated. I accomplished SO MUCH. (I shared a full list here in case you missed it.) Not only did I get quite a bit done, but I was excited about doing it. I also finished things more quickly because I wasn’t stopping to check my phone or share the process.

Because of the current stay-at-home order, I couldn’t tell how my time off the app impacted my relationships or time with other people. I did visit with my mom over Mother’s Day weekend, and I loved that I was able to be present without feeling the urge to constantly check my phone.

I don’t think there were any big drawbacks to taking two weeks off. Did I miss things? Sure. There were moments when I wanted to share what I was doing or show some unique thing I’d found, but in general, I didn’t feel any pressure to do so. There were also a handful of people whose updates I missed. I quickly caught up with them upon my return, so, in the end, I didn’t MISS anything. It was so different from when I had to check the app every few hours for fear of missing out.

 

What Does All of This Mean?

If you’re thinking I had a “problem,” you are right. I’m glad I took a step back for a couple of weeks. I learned so much about myself from it and only wish I had done this months ago. I still have lots to learn and lots of room to grow, but this was a meaningful start.

To sum things up, my two-week break shows that I needed a change and that I’m a happier, more motivated, more productive, more intentional, more present, kinder, and possibly tidier person without Instagram.

Based on what I learned, I’ve made some plans. (See below.) Pushing the pause button to assess and reflect was a smart move for me. Chances are I will revert to my old ways if I’m not careful. However, I’ve given myself a tool to use for a reset whenever those old ways start to creep back in. It’s not so scary.

 

Lessons Learned: My Time Off Instagram #instagram #break

My Plan Going Forward:

I’m still figuring out my plans for moving forward, and it’s likely they will shift as I test them out. Here are my initial thoughts:

Set Boundaries

This is a must. If you’re following me on Instagram, you may have noticed that I’ve set boundaries in the past week. The responses to them were mixed. There was lots of love but anger, too. I get it. Boundaries are hard. I’ve decided not to share the full list of boundaries I’ve set for myself while on the app. I’m afraid they may come across as rude or insensitive to some folks. But I’ve put these boundaries in place to give myself permission to walk away from the app when I must and to only give as much of myself and as much of my time as I can in any particular moment.

Here are ideas for boundaries you might also want to consider:

  • Times of day when you’ll visit the app.
  • Turning off your direct messages if you’re too busy to respond.
  • Setting a timer for how long you’ll respond to comments and questions.
  • Only using the app when you feel mentailly strong and prepared.

 

Take Daily Breaks and Extended Breaks from the App

Whenever I feel like I need a break from the app, I’m going to delete it and step away. I won’t be announcing it; I’ll just delete it, step away, and sign back on when I’m ready. I may also schedule days off. I’m thinking I may delete the app from Friday night through Monday morning. I’m still figuring this out.

 

No Instagram in the First and Final Hours of My Day (No Phone in Bed!)

I used to start and end my day on Instagram. This will no longer happen. For the first few hours of my day and at least two hours before bed, I will not be on Instagram, and I will use my phone as little as possible.
Previously, checking my Instagram feed (and my email) while still in bed was a daily ritual. I would unintentionally let what I saw in my Instagram feed (and inbox) determine my day. I would often be mentally exhausted or emotionally defeated before even getting out of bed. This can’t and won’t happen anymore.

 

Focus on MY Goals

I’ve learned that it’s easy for me to think that “I need to do ALL things,” especially when I see so many great things on Instagram. I think limiting my time on the app will help with this, but I also need to remember that my goals, projects, and to-do list are most important. Just because someone has bought the latest new thing, is doing something cool, or is traveling to some locale, I don’t need to do and have those things as well.

If it aligns with or enhances MY goals, then fine. If it doesn’t, then it’s just not for me.

We can either waste our days constantly comparing ourselves to others, or we can intentionally spend our time doing things for which there is no comparison. I’m opting for the latter.

 

Be Intentional and Limit “The Scroll”

From now on, if I’m getting on Instagram, it’s going to be for a purpose. I won’t get on because I’m bored. I won’t get on because I’m waiting for something to load on my computer. I won’t get on because I’m avoiding work. I won’t get on because I want something to look at while I’m snacking. I won’t get on because I’m waiting in line at the store.

I will get on when I have something I want to share or need to post. I will get on when I have a free moment and want to see what a friend is doing. I will get on if I need a resource or want to check a specific feed. I will get on if I need to message someone or have time to check my messages.
You get the idea. In essence, I want to use the app with intention and not as a time filler.

 

The Numbers (Likes and Follows) Won’t Affect My Personal Happiness

The number of likes I receive on a post and the number of followers I have are irrelevant.

However, YOU are very relevant! I do want you to know how thankful I am for your follows likes, comments, and messages. Writing all of this feels tricky because I don’t want you to think that your support isn’t greatly appreciated. You are wonderful. I’m so glad each of you is here. I love this community that we’ve built, and I’m immensely grateful for all you do to support me online and in real life. With that being said, my goal is to focus on the content I’m sharing, the community we’re co-constructing, and the connections we’re creating. Because of Instagram, I feel like I have so many new friends and this amazing support system. I love our time together. The number of likes and follows are far less important.

 

Lessons Learned: My Time Off Instagram #instagram #break

In conclusion …

Wow. That was a lot. I sincerely hope this post has been helpful. I tried to share everything I could. If you have any questions, please let me know below.

If you feel the need to take a break. Do it! It just might give you the perspective you’ve been seeking. And it’s much easier than you might think. If you’re anything like me, you’ll find joy and freedom beyond the app.

I also want to reiterate that I realize all of us are different. In this post, I’ve talked about my personal experience. It’s not my goal to shame people for the way they use the app or how they choose to spend their time. This is YOUR life. You do you. Spend your days in the way that works for you. Learn, grow, and change along the way.

This post was important for me to write. As our digital social worlds continue to expand, they can be tricky to navigate. For too long, I felt as if I was the only person who struggled with how Instagram was affecting me and how much time I spent on my phone. However, after sharing more about my break and what I learned from it, I’ve discovered that other folks have similar feelings and concerns. I think it’s important that we talk openly about such things. We won’t always agree, but we should have these hard conversations and respect each other’s journey.

Again, thank you for being so supportive during my absence and for allowing me to open up about some of the personal parts of my life.

Stay well, friends!

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  • Rhoda at

    Michael, I can so relate to this post! I know I waste too much time on Instagram and my phone in general and think about one day just quitting all social media. Maybe when I retire from blogging I’ll do that and not feel the need to look so often at things. But I think we all have similar feelings of not good enough and envy sometimes and you’re right, so not good to feel. We’ve all go so much to be thankful for and that’s what I try to concentrate on the most. I need to do what you are doing and not start my morning with my phone in my hand. I think that would go a long ways towards a better day1 I’m going to try that for awhile and break that habit too. Thanks for the post, we all need to hear these things.

  • Elle at

    It is hard sometimes to resist the pull of my phone. FOMO is real. I’m now trying to disconnect earlier each evening. Thanks for encouraging me to do this!

  • Michelle at

    Thanks for sharing your experience! You’ve given me a lot of ideas to think out. I love your idea about signing off for the weekend. I might just start there to regain some balance.

  • Tracie Claiborne at

    I appreciate your honesty, I know it’s hard to be transparent in a world where people are waiting to judge you. Those who truly adore you want you to do what makes you happy! Sounds like you’ve figured it out!

  • Deborah Gustafson at

    Bravo Michael! This is a very thoughtful post and I’m happy I took the time to read it. I’ve learned a great deal here and this is from the perspective of someone who doesn’t have a blog or an IG account for revenue. I am inspired to spend more time on me. On my goals and creating more art, spending more time interacting with my family and not comparing my life to those whose feeds and stories make me feel less. Thank you.

  • Tiffany at

    Congratulations on the changes you’ve made! I gave up social media for Lent, but seem to have fallen back into bad habits pretty quickly after – I’m a little obsessed with Reddit. I was so inspired by all that you accomplished during your time off, and know that while social media entertains me, it doesn’t really enrich my life. Facebook may be the one exception to that as I really enjoy the connections to people from my past still cropping up in my life. Anyway, I admire your resolve and honesty and will be giving all this some thought on how to apply it to my own life.

  • Mary at

    I’s so glad you wrote this post, Michael. Maybe we should look at our time staring into our phones or our computers.
    It’s ok for you to do you or whatever puts balance in your life. I’m just grateful for the blog you write that brings a little light into my life!

  • Becky at

    I hear this loud and clear! I’m a relatively new follower of yours; I love your content and love to be inspired by it. However I have the same “not enough” feels and spend too much mindless time on IG. I am planning on unfollowing a lot of the unhealthy highlight reels and then take a little break and use some of that time on the blogs I enjoy for inspiration instead 😊 Thank you for sharing!

  • Teri at

    👍🏻It’s always good to have balance in our lives and not allow outside influences to have control over our emotions. Social media can absolutely have a negative impact on our lives. So, kudos to you for knowing what you needed to do and being strong enough to do it. ❤️

  • Amanda Watkins at

    I love this post! Thank you so much for your words of wisdom. You were spot on with everything you said. I’m going to take some of the lessons you learned and implement them in my social media life. On another note, you are my favorite blogger. I follow quite a few but don’t really read or keep up with everything they post. I read every post you write. Thank you for your words, creativity and down to earth and fun personality.

  • Daisy at

    Very relatable and honest! I’ve been restricting social media for a couple of months now. Despite tweaking my home feeds and weeding out any negative people I still felt exhausted and negative when I got on FB or Insta.

    I use a scheduler for my pages and try to stay out as much as possible – especially in the evening!

  • Heidi at

    I respect whaat you share and love what you do. So glad you were able to do this and give yourself time and gain new perspectives on why it worked for you. Setting those boundaries and learning more about what works best for yourself has to be so freeing. Some will embrace what you shared and some will not…praying for you to not feel all the feels people share with you and to be able to keep moving forward blessing others with your work, perspective and willingness to share. Thank you for sharing!

  • Lizy at

    I absolutely have to post a comment here! First, because I am so impressed with your thoughtful insights… thank you! And secondly, because you inspired me to delete Instagram too! So, in lieu of giving you a heart through that APP, consider my comment one here! I so appreciate your ideas on managing our issues with social media. It is such a challenge, especially right now. Cheers to more time, and more happiness!

  • Susan at

    Hi Michael, I read your blog, but I don’t follow you on Instagram. Please know that you are certainly “enough”!! Beyond that even! This really resonated with me as I have done the same with Facebook for over a month now. While I love all my “friends” on the app, I just got to the point where everything posted seemed so pretentious and I found myself being so irritated by it. Healthier for me to take a break for a while. Not sure for how long or maybe forever? Stay true to yourself! I love seeing your home and design style!!

  • Kimberly Westby at

    So, maybe being a Boomer is a positive. Not being glued to social media and devices, not really missing something I never got dependent on. Yea yea, say it- okay boomer-lol

    Kim

  • Rikki at

    You are a Rock Star for taking the time to put it all in print for us to see. I so admire you for your honesty and courage. I enjoy EVERY. SINGLE. THING. you post. Recipes, tips on decor, holidays…..there is no end to your creativity, and the fact that you are SUCH A LOVELY PERSON IS ICING ON THE CAKE. Well done, Michael! 🙂

  • Cami at

    This was so inspiring Michael. Your are certainly not alone in the “addiction” of Instagram. Your behaviors are so similar to mine and I’ve also gone to extremes to release myself from them. The makers of Instagram do a wonderful job keeping us there! But I so love being able to connect with friends like you there! I’m taking a month off blogging and YouTube so I can focus on getting the planners in production (and my kids that really need me right now) – but I believe I need to let go of IG as well. Thank you for always being so wonderful, so real, so amazingly YOU!

  • Sandra at

    Michael…completely agree with you regarding time spent on phones. Technology is wonderful (in every sense of the word), but, the gravitational pull it has on people has affected “in person” socializing. Slowly, it has caused people to ignore each other and not being present. Everyone is guilty of living their lives through their phones…SO, don’t beat yourself up…YOU DID SOMETHING ABOUT IT! BRAVO!

  • Laura at

    You speak truth for all of us. We ALL can find many takeaways from this post if we were just as honest with ourselves as you are. The world needs more amazing humans like you!

  • Lori at

    Thank you for sharing this. I’m terrible at posting regularly so it’s a good thing I don’t use Instagram for a business. Just for my little blog. If I did, I would feel obligated to be on Instagram more, for sure. But even still, I do feel that “not enough” feeling often, as I scroll through everyone else’s projects, beauty tips, adventures, and stories. Your post is such a good reminder that it’s okay to just be me, doing my little thing, and if I start to feel less than, it’s time to put my phone down. I do love everything you post though. I love your style and it does inspire me to look around my house and make a few things prettier, if I can. So thank you for that and know that you do inspire people and you are enough.

  • Karen at

    This is such a thoughtful and healthy post. Thanks for sharing and I respect your honesty and your thoughts. All the best!

  • Monica Abel at

    I am not a blogger nor do I use social media for a personal business. It is all for pure enjoyment, however, much of what you wrote about also rings true for me on a personal level. I just wanted to thank you for being so open and honest because you are not alone. Your thoughts and feelings resonate with not only me, but I am sure with so many of your followers. This is why I love your blog. I only follow a few and yours is one I come back to over and over again. Thanks again and many positive vibes to you as you continue your self awareness and mental health journey.

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      This means so much to me Monica. Thank you so much for taking the time to write.

      xo Michael

  • Gabrielle Mader at

    I completely understand. I’ve had my half ass blog since who knows…and the blog world got so advanced real quick. You had to have the best camera with the best pictures and create fresh content with all kinds of links. It got to be too much. so I let it go….I miss it because it was a diary for me. You are awesome and I love your beautiful home and all your beautiful pictures. You have talent and an eye for design. It is good to reset the button sometime, best of luck to you Michael your an inspiration!

  • Karen T at

    I don’t have instagram and that alone makes me feel like I am missing out. I have FB though and find the same thing happens to me on FB. I take serious breaks from it as sometimes I feel good about my visit to FB, and sometimes, it gets me riled up. I have all the same feelings you were experiencing, and it is hard when you take everything to heart. I enjoy your blog, I always feel good after I visit your blog. It is a positive and energetic place. I will say I was “worried” about you as I was before when you voiced needing time off, etc for a reset….and I am sympathetic to your feelings. I hope you continue to listen to your body and mind as you continue to give us all a very comfortable and real place to go to with your blog. Thank you for being human!

  • susan at

    Instagram to you is Pinterest and blogs to me! You said it so well. I waste more time looking and reading and feeling like what I have is not good enough. AND I can’t understand how people change their entire homes and decor every season. And the constant updating. Where does the time and money come from? By the time I get to redo something it’s out of vogue. 😁. I do understand that’s how they make their money but it’s so overwhelming. I do get so much more done if I just don’t look. Until I can go back to Home Goods 😂😂. Kudos to you!

  • PJ at

    Michael, we live in a rural area with limited cell coverage so I gave up my “fancy phone” when we moved here. Some days I think it is a blessing not to have one. My Instagram time has to be on my computer and is limited to the time it takes me to drink my morning coffee before getting on my exercise bike. I unfollow any account that makes me feel that I am not enough in any respect. The home dec posters whom I follow are those who project a sense of humility. I also find that, for me, it is better to follow the posts of a handful of bloggers than to spend time on Instagram. Good luck with your new plan. Thank you for keeping it real All best wishes…

  • Chris at

    Well done! I expect that this will surprise and shock but I have, so far, resisted the urge to sign up with Instagram. There are only so many hours in a day and only so many things I can do in my world. Sounds like my decision is a sound one and the only drawback is that old FOMO feeling. I tell myself to just get over it and remember what I already enjoy without the app, without using my phone for something else (I still try to use my phone as an actual phone and use other devices for searches, pinterest etc). Bad enough that I spend time on emails and texts but at least it is still a communications device that way. Keep us posted on how you work through the whole device world – especially since your work is part of a device world,

  • Julie at

    Michael, I’m glad you took the time for you because, as I said initially, your readers will eagerly be waiting for your return – so take as long as you need. Even though I’m not on Instagram, years ago when on Facebook I felt I spent way too much time on that. You don’t think you’re on that long, and all of a sudden you realized the time when you started and OMG it’s two hours later! At some point I realized I, too, could be doing things with that time spent on FB. Yes, seeing pics of friend’s kids were nice, and yet I don’t care where other friends eat for example. Anyway, I pretty much have minimal viewing on FB, and life goes on indeed!

    I hope this time away worked for you, and if you return, please don’t beat yourself up!! We are all human, and you’ll find the right balance and discipline in making it work ‘just right’ for you.

    AND…..thank you so much for sharing your experiences with us – takes courage and we are right there with you is the reality! So you are helping us too, and for that THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!! HUGS~

  • Toni K. at

    100% wholeheartedly agree with this post! Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I think so many of us can learn from what you shared.

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