What’s the Tea: My Gram

I try not to do these “What’s the Tea” updates too frequently because I know that most of you are here for design tips and recipes. Occasionally, life warrants another update, so please bear with me.

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Several weeks ago I told you that my Gram had a stroke. Unfortunately, she was not able to recover, and I am deeply saddened to tell you that she passed away a little over a week ago. She spent time in the hospital and a nursing home, and her condition was up and down. In her final days, we fed her, held her hand, hugged and kissed her, and said prayers. She struggled in the end. As hard as it was to say goodbye, it was time. Her service was held two years to the day after my grandfather (her husband) passed away.

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As much as I’d love to chat about my grandparents right now, I’d be just a babbling mess of tears, so I’ll save my stories of them for future posts. I did, however, want to give you an update and thank you for all of your thoughts and prayers.

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It probably goes without saying, that May was a busy and trying month. I’m very happy that June is here. The sun is shining, and although Gram is no longer with us, I have another angel watching over me as I try to figure out my life.

Just this past weekend, I came back to my somewhat abandoned apartment in Pittsburgh, and now I’m finally starting to settle in. (I share daily updates on Instagram Stories … if you’re interested.) My first day back here was tough. The cats came with me this time, and watching them struggle to adjust to their new environment broke my heart. Coupled with the recent loss of Gram, it wasn’t much fun around here.

However, five days in, things are getting better. The cats are adapting to the new space which makes me so happy. And I seem to be adjusting, too.

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I am genuinely happy to be living here. As I drive the streets and walk the sidewalks of Pittsburgh, I think of all the things I want to do and can do. All the places I want to eat and all of the experiences I want to create. It’s almost overwhelming but in the best possible way.

I am feeling a little pressure, however. (Which is mostly of my own making) I want everything to happen at once, even though I know that is totally unrealistic. Time seems so fleeting, and I feel like I’m running out of it.

On top of that, I’m also anxious about making friends, I’m nervous about going on dates. I’m trying to push myself into new adventures, but at the same time I need and want to feel comfortable. (Or does comfort need to go out the window at this point?) How does a person do these things in his mid-30s? Ack! I should have all of this taken care of by now. Anywho, for now, I’m taking things day-by-day, moment-by-moment, and just hoping for the best.

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I have made great progress in my apartment, however. As you can see, I’ve found several pieces to start making this place feel like home. I promise to whip up a mini-home tour for you soon. Be warned, however, that this is the only section that’s somewhat presentable. Behind the camera, my TV is sitting on the box it came in. Not cute.

In other news, I need to get my food intake back on track. Living in the city doesn’t mean I’m on a permanent vacation where my diet can consist mostly of cinnamon rolls, pasta, cheese, and multiple glasses of rosé. With the progress I’ve made in losing weight this year, the last thing I want to do is backslide. Thankfully, I have several farmers markets nearby, lots of places to run, and a gym in my building. I truly have no excuse.

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While I’m certain I have more life updates, I think that’s about enough for today. Before I sign off, though, I have a quick question for you. Do you enjoy these more personal / working-through-life style posts? I ask because I always have lots of thoughts rolling around in my head. I’m happy to share them, but I know this can easily verge on oversharing. I’m curious about what you might like, so any feedback is greatly appreciated.

Hope you’re having a wonderful week, my friends!

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  • Janet at

    Hi Michael! This comes rather late but just read your post. I’m so sorry about your Grandma. Give yourself time and enjoy your memories, cry when you need to. Grief is not a linear process. Enough “advice”, though. On another note, share whatever you feel comfortable with. I think I speak for many who follow your blog, we love not just what you do but who you are, which is a loving and caring individual. So, share away any thoughts you have. We can all learn from each other. Peace, love and prayers.

  • Tina at

    I’m so sorry to hear about your grandmother. This time can be tough. Just keep her in your heart.

    I love hearing personal posts among the decorating & DIY. It helps us to get to know you and feel like we are making a small connection. Keep ’em coming!

    Good luck on your Pittsburgh adventures!

  • Jana at

    I’m so sorry about your grandmother. I’m just now catching up on your site now that I have a little down-time, and I just wanted to reach out and give you a virtual hug. Your sadness over your grandmother and your uneasiness after a move are so familiar to me. Just know that you’re not alone, and if the personal posts provide a bit of comfort, then let it rip! I always feel inspired after a visit to your site (or even a quick peek via Pinterest), and I hope things are looking up for you.

  • Danielle at

    Hi Michael,

    Long time fellow Pennsylvanian reader here. So very sorry to hear about your loss. I always find your personal posts refreshing becuse so many blogs/social media feed are so carefully curated as if life is never messy or imperfect. It’s nice to meet the person behind the blog and share in your highs/lows. Please keep the “tea” coming!

    On a more positive note, I wish you the best of luck as you embark on this new journey. I admire your willingness to make positive changes in your life! Carpe diem!!!

  • Lindy at

    I am so sorry to hear about your Grandma, Michael. I am sending you hugs & prayers. I am sure she is watching over you (and cheering you on!) as you adjust to the many changes in your life. Please continue to tell your story. It will help those of us that may be going through some of the same things. The perfect mix of stories is what makes your blog one of my favorites!

  • Kimmy at

    So sorry to hear about your Grandma. Hugs and love for you. I like your personal stories!

  • Karen Mary at

    Oh, I absolutely love the photo of you and your gram. So much love! And I’m so very sorry for your loss.

    Your “What’s the Tea” posts keep it real; don’t want us thinking your life is always as perfect as it looks, right? 🙂

    You’re so talented and obviously appreciate the beautiful things in life! Love your blog; hoping the one I’m in the process of developing will be half as wonderful!

  • Sarah Ollis at

    So sorry to hear about your Gram. My Granny just passed away this weekend after her 3rd stroke in 3 weeks. I understand what you’re going through! Prayers for peace and comfort for you and your family in the upcoming days. I know reflecting on the wonderful memories with her will help.

    Also, I love your “What’s the Tea” posts! I enjoy getting to know the person behind the home decor and recipes. It makes your blog so much more real and relatable. Keep it up! 🙂

  • Jess at

    Love your personal posts! Keep them coming!

  • Bonnie at

    I do enjoy your personal life stories. I’m so sorry to hear about your grandmother’s passing and I will keep you and your family in my prayers. I lost my dad, who was almost 93 years old, on May 31. He had always lived independently up until March when he suffered a mild fall. His health seemed to go downhill from there and it’s hard to believe that he is gone. I lost my mom 2 years ago in May. They were married for almost 71 years again and it’s a comfort to me that they’re in heaven together now as they were deeply in love.

  • donna at

    I’m so sorry of your loss. It is clear that you loved her very much. I lost my grandmother 15 years ago and I teared up as I read your post. Grandparents love us in such a special way. …and you will always have that love.

    I really enjoy your writing whether about style and design or your life. I hope you keep it up.

    Best of luck on this new adventure! I’m envious.

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