I’ve never really been great with understanding how I feel and then expressing it in words. So often I hear or read something and get goosebumps because it’s exactly how I feel; I just never realized it or knew how to explain it. Does that make sense? I think this is why certain books, songs, or movie / TV quotes have such a profound effect on me. In a weird way, they help me understand myself. I think this is also why I’m a self-help book junkie.
Anyway, this past week was the pits. I blame it on the winter weather, but who knows. I was really craving a Starbucks so I made the split-second decision to jump in my car and drive 1.5 hours to get my favorite White Chocolate Mocha. Yes, I live that far from Starbucks. (I figured I could run a few other errands along the way.) Honestly, I think I just needed an excuse to get out of the house. I also decided to listen to an audio book along the way: Oprah Winfrey’s What I Know for Sure.
It might not come as a surprise to you, but I absolutely fell in love with this book. This is not going to be a review, but I will tell you that the book details the many things Oprah’s come to know for sure in life – her own private revelations about life. For example: “If you make time for a little gratitude every day, you’ll be amazed by the results.” “You have nothing to prove to anyone but yourself.” “Having the best things is no substitute for having the best life.”
It’s a feel-good and inspiring book that reminded me how amazing life is and how blessed we are to be alive. At the end of the first chapter, Oprah challenged me (and the millions of others reading this book) to ask myself what I know for sure. She explained that doing this would help me find myself. As you know from the goals I shared earlier this year, finding and loving myself is the crux of what I’m trying to do.
I actually attempted to come up with a list of things I know for sure, but I felt like a phony when I began to write them down. Granted, after reading a lot of self-help books, there are oodles of things I know for sure; I’m just not the best at practicing them. So, is it fair for me to dispense advice on things that I’m not great at doing myself? I honestly don’t know. Though that’s not going to stop me.
What I do know for sure is that practice makes perfect. Life is scary. Fear of failure and rejection is real. It certainly prevents me from doing so much. I’ve found that the first step is often the hardest. If you can get past that, the rest is a piece of cake, relatively speaking. The more you do the thing you’re afraid of, the better you’re going to get at it. Time is going to pass anyway, so you might as well spend it trying rather than worrying. Worst case scenario, you realize whatever it was, wasn’t for you. It wasn’t your dream so you stop. If you fail (and sometimes you will), pick yourself up and realize that you’re still standing. Best case scenario, you get better everyday. You tried. You win. You gain a new skill. Do it for yourself, and be yourself while doing it, and you’ll be unstoppable. This I know for sure.