I’ve decided to take a short break. For the next two weeks (give or take), I’ll be off the blog and Instagram.
(This is a longer-than-usual post, so grab your drink of choice and settle in.)
Let me explain…
Lately (starting last year), I’ve been feeling a bit off. I’ve been struggling with comparisonitis, feeling “not good enough,” poor time management, lack of motivation, fear of failure, procrastination, and the like. If you’ve been following Inspired by Charm for a while now, you know that these aren’t new struggles for me. – I assume some of these things are just part of my makeup. (Lovely, right? Haha.)
However, these struggles have been more intense lately (maybe because of our current world situation), and a reset is in order. I need to take a little time off to look at how I currently spend my days and how I want to spend my days. (This involves less time on my phone and more time creating!) I want to make and do without the fear of failing or disappointing someone. I want to journal and reflect. I want to get a better grasp on my time management and my schedule. I want to rediscover what brings me joy for its own sake.
I write this from a good place. There’s no need to worry. I’m fine. I will be back in a week or two, hopefully, better than ever. It’s been years since I took an intentional break from it all, and I need one. If you’re someone who spends a lot of your day online, I’m certain you know what I mean and how I’m feeling.
Instagram, in particular, has become a challenging place for me these past few months. (I think it’s been worse because most of us are spending more time at home and doing a lot of aimless scrolling. Do you know what I mean?) Recently, I looked at how much time I spend on the app. It averages 2.5 hours a day. That’s 912.5 hours or 38 days per year! (And you don’t even want to know about the time I’m on my phone every day. It’s scary!) I am so thankful for the app because it allows me to connect and share, but I don’t want to spend 38 days of my year on an app, especially when it is time just scrolling and feeling bad, guilty, and not good enough.
I plan to step away for about two weeks. When I was thinking about doing this, one week didn’t feel like long enough. I’m not sure two weeks is enough time either, but that’s the plan for now. (In some ways, I want a month-long or even a year-long hiatus.)
The Plan for My Time Off:
I’m still figuring out my plan for this time. I want to keep it flexible, but here are my thoughts at present:
- I’m deleting social media (Instagram and Facebook) from my phone. I plan to avoid both for two weeks. And as I continue to think about this plan, it’s making me crazy nervous because there is a part of Instagram that brings me SO MUCH JOY, and I’m going to miss it. Sharing, inspiring, and connecting in positive ways is fuel for me. For example, it was so much fun the other day when I gave folks a tour of my landscaping. I loved all of our conversations in my messages. BUT, I realize I do need better boundaries, and even though it may be difficult, it’s a necessary step. I will probably also be sharing my plans for less phone time once this is all done. The goal is to create steps and a plan to limit how much time I’m staring at my screen.
- I have a list of projects, recipes, and other things I want to do during this time so I’ll probably continue to “work” (photographing, writing, etc.). However, I want to approach this as a creative time rather than work time. I know that sounds confusing, but I haven’t quite figured out how to manage that yet, so we’ll see.
- Part of that work will include updating some old blog posts so you might see an old post reemerge on IBC. However, nothing new will be posted.
- Other things I want to do: clean and organize spaces in my home, paint a room (My office! Stay tuned for that!), spend time outdoors, journal, read, get back in an exercise routine or just move, listen to music (My new Ultimate Folk playlist is coming together beautifully by the way. I’m obsessed!),…The list goes on. Generally speaking, I just want to do things that fuel my soul and fill my heart. It’s not that I haven’t been doing those things; I’ve just forgotten how to do them with intention and focus.
How to Get Your IBC Fix While I Take a Break:
If you’re looking to stay connected in my absence, you have a couple of options:
- First, I started a new email series where I share some decorating secrets. If you haven’t yet joined that series, you can do so HERE. You’ll get a new email every day for 6 days, so that should give you your IBC fix.
- Second, I will continue to send out my weekly emails. If you’re not on the IBC Mailing List, you can join HERE.
- Finally, I post on the IBC Facebook page several times a day. It’s a smattering of both current and past posts. So if you want to follow along with some older posts and maybe catch things you missed, join me there.
Ultimately, I hope to be able to set new goals and new boundaries for myself regarding social media, work, and phone use by the end of these two weeks. I don’t know what that looks like yet, but I know that I will be taking more time off Instagram. Perhaps I won’t post on weekends or maybe I’ll just limit my scrolling time. We’ll see.
I will also be adjusting my work and personal schedule. I’ve decided to add more me-time. I want to schedule time to paint or draw, to read, to visit interesting local places, museums, and restaurants (when they open) that have been on my “To-Visit” List. There’s just so much I’d rather be doing that’s more life-giving than staring at my phone. I’m on a mission to bring more joy into my days and contentment into my life. I want to fall back in love with my work and how I spend my time.
Want To Know How This Hiatus Goes?
If you want to hear more about this, it’s likely that when I return I will share a bit about my experience and time away. It might be a disaster and I’ll fail miserably, or it might (hopefully) be a wild success and I’ll walk away with a fresh perspective, a clearer mind, better habits, and more tools and ideas to share with all of you.
Until then, you will be missed. Please take care of yourself. Be safe and stay healthy. I will see you soon!
Sending you lots of e-love!






Good Morning Michael
I think we are all feeling the same way in one way or another. Always good to step back and pause.
Look forward to the many wonderful things ahead ! Take care of yourself !
Take of yourself first,wish you all the best I love your posts and think you are an amazing person.
I pray this is a time of rest, reflection, and renewal. You are truly gifted and bring a smile to my face and so many others, through your creativity and who God created you to be. Take as much time as you need and trust that those of us who love you and all the beauty you bring to the world, will be here, looking forward to your return. Just heard an awesome folkish song that is perfect for the times we are in. “Better” by Chris Renzema. Thought it might bring rest for your soul.
Hi Michael,. Strangely, I think many people feel like you at the moment. I know I do and have done for some time. I think we have all been on a treadmill for so long, we are actually, burnt out. I know this Pandemic is so awful and heartbreaking, but if you are one of the lucky enough not to get sick, I think we should all take this time to recharge our batteries and get our lives into some order and perspective.
Please relax and take a breath while you can, until you feel better. Love, Judy
We (I) will miss you! But I wholeheartedly support you on this. Please do much self care and pampering! We will be thinking of you and sending you loving vibes. Thank you for all you do and all the kindness you share with the world!!!!
All the best to you Michael. Please know you are my favorite and will be missed!
See you soon Michael…when you are rested and ready to dazzle us once more. Take great care! Sending love, prayers and best wishes always.
You are one of my favorites!!
I will miss your posts but so admire what you are doing. More of us should follow your lead and take that much needed time to reflect and find joy.
Be safe and well.
Look forward to your return!
I look forward to your return.
Peace Michael.
This time we have all been at home has brought a lot to the surface. I know I have spent time evaluating my own time, how I approach my time each day and how I want to spend my time. I have things I would like to develop…my painting and photography, some different cooking and some wellness goals. I am trying to look at this time to evaluate as a gift and the changes I make as a gift as well… I hope this will be the case for you as well. I love your approachable, lovely style. Be well.
Hey Michael!
I applaud you for making this important decision. And what a good time to do it. (Just promise me you won’t watch the news on tv 😉 ) A couple of weeks ago when all “this” hit the fan, I went into Target for some necessities like notebooks for journaling and “rolling paper” 😉 and made my way to the book section amid many dirty looks from the workers there. 🙁 Many books flew into my basket, but one, in particular, has been so helpful to me and I had no idea that would happen when I picked it up. It’s “13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do” by Amy Morin. The thing is I’ve never thought of myself as ‘weak’ but it opened my eyes up to some things I do that actually do rob me of being my best. Maybe as you do some soul searching in the midst of creating, you’ll find it helps you the way it did me.
All the best for a rejuvenating sabbatical!
About a year ago I was feeling overwhelmed by all the images everywhere I looked. I was comparing them to my home, to my creative projects, to far too many elements in my life. So I unplugged from as many things as I possibly could. When I felt ready I slowly started adding media back into my life. Michael, your blog was one of the first reinstated. Your blog inspires me in the same way a friend would. Take care of yourself. I look forward to your return.
Michael, I will miss you while you’re on sabbatical. I always look forward to seeing what you’re up to. I’m a 65 year old granny & I learn a lot from you. Keep up your awesomeness, please! Sending e-love back to you.
I have always enjoyed your Instragram/Facebook posts and your blog. You are inspiring, but I can imagine how it can get tiring. Take the time you need to recharge and don’t feel guilty about doing so. We’re the hardest on ourselves, and that’s just so backwards! We’ll be here whenever you decide you’re ready to come back. Thank you for your honesty and for sharing your talents and your lovely home with so many!
Michael, I e always loved your IG and blog! Thank you for your honesty and transparency. As someone trying to grow my blog, Pinterest, and IG I know the work that is involved and have wondered how you keep up with everything! Now I know you are human. A very gifted, talented and creative human. Take all the time you need.
I’ll be here when you return and I bet everyone else will be too!
Life is so short enjoy your morning coffee , sunshine on your face and be still ….
Build your life with lots of smiles and rest it’s good for you and your health !
Wishing you well from California 🌻
Sending you e-love back!
Take as much time as you need to reset and get better connected with your inner you.
I love your blog and IG but totally support you doing whatever it takes for you to pursue what is best for you emotionally, physically and spiritually. Social media can be very draining and pursuing what is life giving and purposeful for you is a wonderful thing to do.
I heart you, Michael! Sending hugs! This is brilliant and you won’t regret it! Love that you’ll be feeding your creativity and doing things for the sake of fun. Support and love from Michigan! Text me whenever!