I’ve decided to take a short break. For the next two weeks (give or take), I’ll be off the blog and Instagram.
(This is a longer-than-usual post, so grab your drink of choice and settle in.)
Let me explain…
Lately (starting last year), I’ve been feeling a bit off. I’ve been struggling with comparisonitis, feeling “not good enough,” poor time management, lack of motivation, fear of failure, procrastination, and the like. If you’ve been following Inspired by Charm for a while now, you know that these aren’t new struggles for me. – I assume some of these things are just part of my makeup. (Lovely, right? Haha.)
However, these struggles have been more intense lately (maybe because of our current world situation), and a reset is in order. I need to take a little time off to look at how I currently spend my days and how I want to spend my days. (This involves less time on my phone and more time creating!) I want to make and do without the fear of failing or disappointing someone. I want to journal and reflect. I want to get a better grasp on my time management and my schedule. I want to rediscover what brings me joy for its own sake.
I write this from a good place. There’s no need to worry. I’m fine. I will be back in a week or two, hopefully, better than ever. It’s been years since I took an intentional break from it all, and I need one. If you’re someone who spends a lot of your day online, I’m certain you know what I mean and how I’m feeling.
Instagram, in particular, has become a challenging place for me these past few months. (I think it’s been worse because most of us are spending more time at home and doing a lot of aimless scrolling. Do you know what I mean?) Recently, I looked at how much time I spend on the app. It averages 2.5 hours a day. That’s 912.5 hours or 38 days per year! (And you don’t even want to know about the time I’m on my phone every day. It’s scary!) I am so thankful for the app because it allows me to connect and share, but I don’t want to spend 38 days of my year on an app, especially when it is time just scrolling and feeling bad, guilty, and not good enough.
I plan to step away for about two weeks. When I was thinking about doing this, one week didn’t feel like long enough. I’m not sure two weeks is enough time either, but that’s the plan for now. (In some ways, I want a month-long or even a year-long hiatus.)
The Plan for My Time Off:
I’m still figuring out my plan for this time. I want to keep it flexible, but here are my thoughts at present:
- I’m deleting social media (Instagram and Facebook) from my phone. I plan to avoid both for two weeks. And as I continue to think about this plan, it’s making me crazy nervous because there is a part of Instagram that brings me SO MUCH JOY, and I’m going to miss it. Sharing, inspiring, and connecting in positive ways is fuel for me. For example, it was so much fun the other day when I gave folks a tour of my landscaping. I loved all of our conversations in my messages. BUT, I realize I do need better boundaries, and even though it may be difficult, it’s a necessary step. I will probably also be sharing my plans for less phone time once this is all done. The goal is to create steps and a plan to limit how much time I’m staring at my screen.
- I have a list of projects, recipes, and other things I want to do during this time so I’ll probably continue to “work” (photographing, writing, etc.). However, I want to approach this as a creative time rather than work time. I know that sounds confusing, but I haven’t quite figured out how to manage that yet, so we’ll see.
- Part of that work will include updating some old blog posts so you might see an old post reemerge on IBC. However, nothing new will be posted.
- Other things I want to do: clean and organize spaces in my home, paint a room (My office! Stay tuned for that!), spend time outdoors, journal, read, get back in an exercise routine or just move, listen to music (My new Ultimate Folk playlist is coming together beautifully by the way. I’m obsessed!),…The list goes on. Generally speaking, I just want to do things that fuel my soul and fill my heart. It’s not that I haven’t been doing those things; I’ve just forgotten how to do them with intention and focus.
How to Get Your IBC Fix While I Take a Break:
If you’re looking to stay connected in my absence, you have a couple of options:
- First, I started a new email series where I share some decorating secrets. If you haven’t yet joined that series, you can do so HERE. You’ll get a new email every day for 6 days, so that should give you your IBC fix.
- Second, I will continue to send out my weekly emails. If you’re not on the IBC Mailing List, you can join HERE.
- Finally, I post on the IBC Facebook page several times a day. It’s a smattering of both current and past posts. So if you want to follow along with some older posts and maybe catch things you missed, join me there.
Ultimately, I hope to be able to set new goals and new boundaries for myself regarding social media, work, and phone use by the end of these two weeks. I don’t know what that looks like yet, but I know that I will be taking more time off Instagram. Perhaps I won’t post on weekends or maybe I’ll just limit my scrolling time. We’ll see.
I will also be adjusting my work and personal schedule. I’ve decided to add more me-time. I want to schedule time to paint or draw, to read, to visit interesting local places, museums, and restaurants (when they open) that have been on my “To-Visit” List. There’s just so much I’d rather be doing that’s more life-giving than staring at my phone. I’m on a mission to bring more joy into my days and contentment into my life. I want to fall back in love with my work and how I spend my time.
Want To Know How This Hiatus Goes?
If you want to hear more about this, it’s likely that when I return I will share a bit about my experience and time away. It might be a disaster and I’ll fail miserably, or it might (hopefully) be a wild success and I’ll walk away with a fresh perspective, a clearer mind, better habits, and more tools and ideas to share with all of you.
Until then, you will be missed. Please take care of yourself. Be safe and stay healthy. I will see you soon!
Sending you lots of e-love!






Michael, you are so incredibly inspiring!!! I am so happy for you that you are taking some needed time off. I have been feeling off myself for months now, and definitely have felt a turn for the worse with all the changes that snuck up on us overnight. I have been battling in my head what I should do with Instagram, and once again, you sprinkle your magic inspirational dust, and I now feel confident this is what I need to do for me too. Thanks for giving me the courage to do so! We’ll all be here upon your return!
Big hugs- Cherie (sweet rose and wren)
What’s encouraging to me is your self awareness and care for yourself to allow some time for reflection and have a reset. We should all be that aware and do something healthy for ourselves that may include online absence.
Enjoy this time and don’t feel any pressure about what you do and share when you come back. Just be yourself. That’s who we all enjoy!
Thanks for reminding us that it’s OK to take a break from work and social media. We all need to get away from it all even if we have to stay at home right now. You’re my role model!
Michael, I haven’t followed you for too long, but your IG feed is inspiring and such a joy to see. I get you, and I’m with you. I think what you’re doing it’s a wonderful thing, for you and for your business. These words resonated so much with me, because it is exactly how I feel today: “Generally speaking, I just want to do things that fuel my soul and fill my heart. It’s not that I haven’t been doing those things; I’ve just forgotten how to do them with intention and focus.”
Thank you for this message and this post. Maybe your hiatus means more than a break for you, but a wake up call for many of us. Lots of hugs, and enjoy your time unplugged!
Don’t for one minute feel bad or guilty about taking some time for yourself. No explanations are needed to any of us. I love your site and I have taken so much from it; whether it be simple decorating or a new recipe. I recently made your quick cinnamon bread for a friend and not a crumb was left. What is most important for us all is self care; without it life can be miserable and you stay stagnant. Everyone needs to refuel and take care of your body and mind. As a nurse, I advocate for this wholeheartedly; especially with our current situation. Please enjoy your time and we look forward to seeing you when you are ready. Peace and blessings.
Wishing you happiness and peace wherever you find it. We are in a crazy time right now and truth to be told we are all just kind of grasping at straws and trying to find our place. I haven’t found mine yet but I am still searching. I know for a while anyway that things will not be like they were before. Sometimes I think the one good thing that has come out of this crisis is that all of us has had to take a hard look at our lives. If you are like me there are so many things that I will do differently moving forward. This crisis has made a lot of us look at our finances differently and decide what we can do better. I find myself being more saving with my food and not wasting anything. I have tried to be more helpful and try to be more tolerant of people. One thing for sure is that all of us will make different decisions after this. This crisis may be our defining moment and help all of us to be better. Wishing you the best.
Enjoy your time of reflection and rejuvenation. Your blog and feed are truly stunning. I love following along.
Have a great break!!! You deserve it!!! You should always come first!!! Take care!
Good for you. Take as long as you need. Inspiring.
Good for you! Everyone needs a break. I have signed up for both email series to stay in touch. May your time off be restful, inspiring and insightful!
Michael,
I respect your transparency! Take your time! I have struggled with comperasonitis over Instagram myself, especially with my local fellow designers or people I met on Instagram that started around a same time as me.
Ever since I stepped back things feel better.
I adore your work, and I don’t think anyone can compare! It’s so you that when I see it I know it’s yours without seeing your name.
Do your thing and don’t put a time frame on it! Don’t worry people stand by and wait for quality! We will all be here 😉👌🏻♥️
As a fellow Pittsburgh-er the grey rainy skies get to me. I’m so much better at everything when the sun is shining. I can’t even begin to imagine being “on” all the time.
Take care of you! We’ll be here when you return… Maybe the sun will be shining and we’ll see some blue in the sky instead of grey…
Good for you!! I really think that adding weekends and or long weekends would be a good break too.! Love your blog! You can do it, your followers will be there.
Happy for you Michael and very proud of you. Reach out any time via email if you’d like to chat.
Enjoy this break. 😌💛
I so enjoy your blog but everyone needs time away. I’ve found that during this time, I’ve still been crazy busy and haven’t been able to take time to breathe…and that’s something I would like to fix as well. Be safe, be well, and enjoy your break.
Take your time we’ll be here when you get back no matter how long it takes. Take care and be well!
I will miss you! Always so inspiring to see what you are doing. ❤️
Please take all the time you need to gain perspective and find renewed joy in your beautiful work. We’ll all be here … and eager to hear how you spent your time, what you learned and how you will adjust going forward. Be well. xo
enjoy your reset time!! ❤
I am so glad you are doing this for yourself Michael and I am wishing you all the best. Your Instagram and blog are absolutely in my top five favorites and in addition to your decorating and cooking prowess it is your honesty and authenticity that keeps me coming back. You feel like an old friend now so I want the very best for you – whatever it takes to help you find the peace of mind and spirit and happiness you so richly deserve. Looking forward to hearing all about it in a couple weeks. I need the courage and self control to curtail my social media time too.
Take care of yourself and I wish you all of life’s best in your hopes and dreams! You do a fabulous job, don’t ever second guess that.
I hope you have the best break and come back knowing that you have not failed at anything. You inspire so many people. Now it is time to go find what truly inspires you!!
Sending you hugs and good wishes for a restful break! I love your blog!
Enjoy your time away! Your blog is very beautiful, but everyone needs a break from their routine once in a while. See you when you get back!
Please remember that there is no failing, as long as you try. There is succeeding or learning from a mistake, but there is no failures. You are far from a failure. You bring knowledge, joy and smiles to your readers. I understand the time suck that occurs on the phone and congratulate you for recognizing that you need to step back and reboot. Thanks to this blog, I will be stepping away from my phone as well to re-prioritize my own time and energy. God bless, Lora