I’ve decided that May will be Home Month here on IBC. As I’ve touched on here and there in recent posts, I’ve been struggling with getting some projects done around the house. Part of my procrastination is due to sheer laziness and lack of motivation. However, another bigger part, stems from fear of getting it all wrong.

I absolutely love my work and being able to share what I’m doing with you. Recently, however, I’ve come to realize that it’s taken a toll on my self-confidence. For some reason, the notion that “everything must be perfect and that everyone needs to like what I do” has enveloped me in a profound and not-so-great way. It’s debilitating. Social media has played a role, too. People are freaking amazing, right!? This idea to “keep up” or be “just as amazing” is so real these days. I sometimes feel, if it’s not “as good” what’s the point of sharing it, or even doing it for that matter.

Now, I’m not complaining here. At all. Yes, I’ve spent time feeling crappy about all of this, but in that time I’ve learned a lot as well. With some help from a few friends, the two main lessons here are: “Excellence, not perfection.” and “Other people’s opinions of you are none of your business.”

So, with those two mantras, I’m ready to do some stuff and to do it the way I want to do it. No questions. No apologies.

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Despite this overwhelming pressure to be “perfect” and to please everyone, I often remind myself to sit back and reflect on what I love most about design and creating. And that is, there’s no right or wrong way to do it. Yes, there are guidelines to achieve “good” design, but when it comes to creating a home you love – you create the “rules.” Even if you break every design rule, if you love your space, who cares. To take that thought even further, breaking the rules is often where the magic happens. This is where new design, innovative ideas, and genius are born.

Furthermore, I’ve also kept areas of my home offline for years. In large part, it’s because I’m embarrassed about them. Here’s the short list: my nonexsistant outdoor space; the proximity of my house to a busy street; my outdated bathrooms; my closets that are full of clutter; and the guestroom in my house that’s not yet been renovated.

I guess I’m tired of being embarrassed. And as fellow blogger, author, and friend, Melissa Michaels (The Inspired Room) says, “Love the home you have.

So where am I going with all of this? Well, nowhere super grand. I’m not starting a series to “inspire you to share your home’s dirty secrets” or challenging you to be yourself. As promised last week, I’m just keeping it real and digging up the motivation I need to get back to work, start falling back in love with my home (all of it), and sharing my progress (the good, the bad, and the ugly) with you along the way. It’s really that simple.

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This weekend, I drafted a list of projects that need to be completed around my house. (The list is at the end of this post.) I’m aware the list is not helpful to you. However, I’m hoping it will provide a little accountability and motivation for me and maybe a fun thing for you to follow along with / get excited about.

I’ll come back to this list now and then to add to it, cross things off, and link up progress posts from the blog. All that good stuff.

Also, no matter how much the before shots make me cringe, I’m hoping to share a few more of my spaces with you.

Again, this isn’t some grand proclamation. I’m not looking for validation or support. I’m just putting it out there and giving you an idea of what to expect in the coming months on IBC. There still will be bursts of deliciousness, but as I work toward some health and fitness goals, the timing seems perfect to shift focus a bit.

So, with that, feel free to check out my to-do list below. Anything marked with an “(H)” means that I will likely hire someone to complete all or part of the job. However, I will still share those adventures with you.

Here we go!

The List

Exterior
Landscape
Replace porch roofs (H)
Refinish glider (H)
Reseal driveway (H)
Install deck (H)

Garage
Clean out
Sell unwanted furniture
Refinish floors (H)
Repaint inside
Find solution for ceilings

Kitchen
Replace countertops (H)
Replace backsplash
Get new oven

Office
Swap out workstation for table

Downstairs Bath
Gut and refinish (H)

Master Bedroom
Put up wall art in closet
Update mirror
Repaint closet area
Create shoe storage
Finish wall décor iin bedroom
Get another piece of furniture for bedroom

Room #3 (Guest bedroom)
Get / make wall art
Hang lamps
Retile fireplace
Change antel décor

Room #1 (Guest bedroom)
Repaint
Refurnish

Master Bathroom
Repaint
Install new vanity and light fixtures
Redecorate

Room #3 Bathroom
Repaint
Install new vanity and light fixtures
Redecorate

Room #1 Bathroom
Completely demo (H)

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Comments

  • Kathy at

    You are my favorite blogger, because you do keep it real!! Thanks for sharing your home and ideas ( and sangria recipes!!!) Your house is wonderful and real!!

  • Gwen at

    I have felt like this a lot, Michael. It’s really paralyzed me in the past and I’m finally finding my way out of it. I can across this quote today and it has really encouraged me, so I thought I’d share it!

    “There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and it will be lost. The world will not have it. It is not your business to determine how good it is nor how valuable nor how it compares with other expressions. It is your business to keep it yours clearly and directly, to keep the channel open.” Martha Graham

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      This is great Gwen!! Thank you!

      xo Michael

  • Shannon at

    Can’t wait to see what you do! I know it’ll be amazing! It’s not about creating “perfect” for everyone else but creating perfect for you! We’ll all still be here faithfully reading!

  • Maureen at

    I think your home is beautiful and it’s inspiring to me. It makes me kind of sad that you aren’t getting the joy from it that I am. Something I’ve learned in my life is to be more process oriented then goal oriented with my home and yard and to get that thrill from making the most of the challenges than some elusive perfection. Maybe that would help you. If you could see your home through my eyes you’d say, Oh, wow, this is beautiful, comfortable and amazing!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thank you Maureen! No need to feel sad for me. I do get plenty of joy from my space – but something is off I suppose. I think it’s just different when your sharing it with the world and seem to be held to a higher standard. Or rather, THINK you’re being held to a higher stander. If that makes sense.

      However, I really appreciate your super sweet comments. 🙂

      xo Michael

  • Rachel at

    I wanted to thank you for your honesty. I am grateful I am not alone in being overwhelmed by the internal pressure to make my home picture perfect. I have Melissa Michaels book Love The Home You Have sitting right next to me and I am loving it! The day after it arrived this months Southern Living arrived. Printed across the cover “Love Where You Live”. Now this…It is definitely a sign to stop putting so much pressure on myself.

  • diane at

    your house is gorgeous! I’m sure that there is the pressure to keep up, but I think you’re already there 🙂 Thanks for sharing it with us!

  • Sheila at

    I am most sure that those who would like to “condemn or criticize” speaking their superior attitudes are just a few and in the minority of your readers. It is very sad that you allowed them to restrict you and create inner havoc blinding you from viewing the incredible skill and talent you have for creating design. I am so glad you are getting a handle on how to handle wrong attitudes and behaviors of others. I would encourage you though to keep an open mind. Other people’s opinions can be very valuable and insightful. I value constructive criticism done in a caring way to help me see my character flaws and turn them around into character strengths. Your home is beautiful. And what a “wow” factor you create when you allow “before pictures” of dumpy, neglected for years rooms and after pictures of your amazing transforming work creating desire, inspiration and motivation for your readers that their long neglected rooms (maybe because of finance limitations) can also be transformed by emulating your ideas. And my “to do” list is bigger than yours and my home looks nowhere near as nice as yours but room by room I’m getting there! Keep the talent, skills, and ideas coming so I can be inspired and motivated too. 🙂

  • Robin // Robin + Rose Design at

    Thank you for this post, it’s nice to know that even folks with homes as beautiful as yours sometimes feel intimidated by social media and all of the almost-perfection out there. I love sharing photos of mine, but I know it’s far from perfect and far from the best out there and it can be paralyzingly intimidating. I try to remind myself that everyone started somewhere!

  • Debra W at

    Michael, I absolutely love your site. You seem to create from the heart. I don’t want perfection. It would make the rest of us feel like we are lacking. You keep it real by letting us in on the parts that are not done yet. We all have those in our homes. We are inspired by you not perfection.

  • Jeanette Bruffett at

    I am very excited to see these new updates to your home! (and just as excited to see the “befores”!) woo-weeeeee! 😀 I’ll be checking in often. Have a wonderful day!

  • Janet at

    I’m 62 years old. Every year I think I’m too fat, too thin, too shy, too boring, too blah blah blah… I have been thinking that for 40 years. The thing is that I spent so much time wishing that I was different than what I was, I lost all the time that I should have loved myself the way I was! Don’t waste time thinking about what you’re not, think about all the great things that you ARE!!! Believe the people here that follow your blog for all those great things. That’s why I’m here too! 🙂

    • Guerrina at

      Janet, I just turned 60 and can identify with all you said. I quit wasting that time about 3 years ago when I decided to learn how to diy in my home or else nothing would get done. Still don’t know if I’m too fat or thin or pretty, blah blah blah. BUT my confidence has grown and taken root as I learned my way with power tools and seeing beautiful things come to be! Life is good!

  • Patty at

    Michael those bookcases are extremely not my taste but I absolutely LOVE them! They hold a lot of things but look so light and airy, they are beautiful. I read a lot of blogs and somethings people post I truly hate but I never say that because it is not my home and if anyone of them came to my home, I’m sure they would find a lot of things they don’t like but things that I love. I can’t believe some of the comments people leave. I unfortunately do not comment enough especially when I really like things and I am trying to change that. I’m not going to make a list of things I have to do because I would probably sit and cry when I read it.

  • Makenna at

    I’m absolutely loving the paint colors you have selected for your home, do you mind sharing?

  • Guerrina at

    Michael, I find your home to be welcoming! Just because I or anyone might choose differently for our own homes is no reflection on the beauty of yours. We are all unique and that is reflected in our homes!

  • Richella Parham at

    I’m so glad you wrote this post. I follow you and read your blog regularly, but somehow I missed this post on the day you wrote it. I’m grateful I didn’t miss it for good.

    I work hard to make my home lovely and full of love. I’m proud of some of my spaces. But so much of what I do is nowhere near perfect. It’s easy for me to think that it’s not Pinterest-worthy, much less perfect! And if that’s true of my home, then it’s doubly true of my person.

    It’s comforting to know that even someone like you struggles with insecurities. I say bravo for your being courageous enough to share your personal spaces with all of us. You, your home, and your blog are charming, of course, but you are also truly inspiring. You live up to your blog name in every possible way. Thank you for that.

  • Cheri at

    I find your house so comfortable and real. I follow ALOT of blogs, and a lot of them are almost like a set on a television show. They seem phony and unwelcoming. I have begun to unsubscribe because I feel no connection or excitement when the blogger posts new “afters”. Your home is so warm and your updates are real and so exciting. You keep up the good work and you’ll have tons of followers! I LOVE your style.

  • Kathy T. at

    Darn, I have a whole bunch of “dirty secret” photos (closets, anyone?) that I was looking forward to sharing! How about a contest? My craft storage would beat your bathrooms any day!

  • Paula R. at

    I think the house is darling as is…we built our home 26 years ago and are still there! We’ve raised our two children here (who are now one married and the other moved to Texas!) Unfortunately, when they left they thought of mom and dad’s as a FREE storage locker! LOL…..Don’t ever be embarrassed by the “clutter”…it just means a real person lives there! Sure, I’d love to have a home that’s magazine worthy, but in reality – do any of us? Those are just staged for photos. I love seeing that you are willing to share with the rest of us! And on a side note, you’ve had some AWESOME recipes that you’ve shared along the way! Keep on being REAL!

  • Erin at

    First time commenter. Long time reader. I’ve been a homeowner for 12 years, but we moved into our current house 18 months ago and your blog has been a huge inspiration. When we moved in, my 1970s split-level was sporting yellow-gold walls and housing our college-era furniture. Now, I see a lot of similarities between my home and the pictures you shared above. Thank you for creating this corner of the internet. It’s a great source of smiles, ideas and inspiration.

  • Amy @ Homey Oh My! at

    Michael. I think I say out loud at least once a day that social media is ruining my life HA! I feel you on every word- the confidence issues, the pressure to be perfect, the resulting lack of motivation, everything. For a while I was feeling like I needed to disconnect and not pay so much attention to what everyone else was doing, but then that disconnect can feel a bit lonely, like I’m not participating in the community almost, which is another aspect of “keeping up” in terms of staying in the know. Catch 22.

    Anywho, I understand your mindset about focusing on home this month. It’s yours, and it’s for you. This blog thing makes it easy to lose touch with doing things just for the sake of wanting to do them as opposed to wanting to impress people, which is something I’m not happy about myself. Focusing on your to-do’s to make your home happier is an excellent plan.

    Great post <3

  • Ursula at

    I love the reminder of “loving the home you have!” Like you, I have kept my home “off-line” ever since I started my blog. A little bit because is not the way I wanted it to be (or what I think in my head it should be) and the other reason is because I can’t seem to tackle a big project these days.

    I’ve telling myself this for years 😉 When I think about re-painting a room, or cleaning the heck out of my carpets or even replace them, I think about all the time involved and I would rather spend time with my family, or take a break from my family and do something by myself 😉

    If we have a long weekend, we will grab the chance to do a short trip with the kids or anything else that doesn’t involve big projects. Ha!
    I found your blog via @homeyohmy Friday’s finds. Will be following ya 😉 Ursula @http://kraftmint.com

  • Hailey~FurnishMyWay at

    I love how real this blog post is. The idea that perfection can be attained is not realistic, however being the best we can be and making the most of what we have is! I look forward to seeing what you get started on first!

  • Becky at

    First off, that turquoise lamp is killing it! Second, this has gotten my butt moving to walk through our house and make my wish list for the spring and summer. Thanks for the kick in the pants and best of luck with your list!

  • Gwen at

    re: “However, another bigger part, stems from fear of getting it all wrong.” This is me to a T. I take forever to decide, because what if I pick the wrong color, etc. I took forever to pick a sofa….and you know what? I got it wrong! I hate it. BUT I am working with it to make it work!

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