I hope you all had a fabulous holiday season and that 2015 is off to a wonderful start for you!

As I do every December, I took the last couple of weeks off from the blog. With the craziness of the holidays, and literally just running out of steam, I needed to step away for a hot minute. Thanks so much for your patience in my absence. It’s nice to be back.

I was hoping to return to blogging this past Monday like most folks did, but I wasn’t quite ready. In fact, I’m not sure if I’m really ready today. You see, 2014 was “a year” for me. It wasn’t particularly good, but it wasn’t particularly bad either. I got to take several awesome, once-in-a-lifetime trips, I made some great memories with friends and family, my house (particularly my living room is starting to take shape), and I’m still living. However, at the same time, I felt like I spent the whole year in a pool, frantically paddling my legs and arms, just to stay afloat so that I could breathe. I lived the year in survival mode – always stressed, tired, and worried. So while I did have some amazing times, unfortunately some are just a haze.

Thankfully, every year, well every day, we are given a chance to turn things around. Like many people, I really want 2015 and every year that follows to be better. I want to get out of survival mode. I want to hop on a fancy raft that’s shaped like an ice cream sandwich with a bite taken out of it and then, wearing a really cool pair of shades, float gracefully on top of the water. Who wouldn’t want that? This has to be the year.

I’ve tried to not get too personal on the blog over the past year, so this all might sound weird or foreign. For my own well-being, however, I need to share this with you. And even though I haven’t figured out my official goals and directions for IBC for 2015, I know a few things. I know that I want to get back to real life. There might be a few more posts like this. While I still want to create beautiful and inspiring content, I want to rewind a bit and get back to that old-school style of blogging where not everything is created to look fabulous on social media and things aren’t overly fussy. Do you know what I mean? Basically, I want IBC to be unapologetically me. Plus, I want to break the rules a little bit. But, we will talk more about that later – probably next week.

So, for the past week I’ve been developing my personal goals for 2015. I was trying to think of a clever acronym but it just wasn’t working and that kept me from getting started. (Which, coincidentally, is one of my goals.) I figured that I would just write what I’ve decided and if I need to make adjustment or additions later. I can certainly do that. *Throw out the rule book.*

Now, I know that sharing one’s goals with the world is kind of self-centered and weird, but I’m going to do it anyway. Here goes.

Love myself. In all honestly, I really don’t like myself. I know that’s hard to read; it’s even harder for me to say, but there it is. At the end of the day, I think that’s the root of my unhappiness. I work from home by myself and live alone so I’m basically spending most of my life with the one person I really don’t like. That’s not a good thing, right? I haven’t figured out a plan of attack for this particular goal (and it’s been a goal for the past three years), but I’m hoping some of my other goals will help me at least start to like myself. I mean it’s okay to not like people and it’s okay if people don’t like you, but YOU need to like YOU.

Be healthy. This past year I truly struggled with healthful eating and my weight. I have lots of excuses, but they don’t matter. Bottom line, I’m not comfortable, my clothes aren’t fitting like they should, and I lack energy, so something has to change. I’m committing to a healthier lifestyle that includes daily exercise, more physical activity, and more nutritious food choices. While I am dieting now to return to a weight I’m comfortable with, my goal is to have a healthier lifestyle so I’m not in this situation again.

Say No. In the moment, I love saying yes to people. I’ve been a people pleaser my entire life. Usually, however, when I’m lying in bed at night or looking at the mile-long list of things I don’t really want to do, the panic sets in. I need to learn to say, “No!” I’ve worked so hard for this amazing career and for the past couple years I’ve been letting others dictate how I live / run it. This needs to change.

Just start. Because I can’t say no, I have a bad habit of piling too much on my plate. When this happens, I get completely overwhelmed. Instead of doing what I need to do because there’s so much to do, I don’t know where to start and I sit and watch YouTube videos or scroll aimlessly though social media. I spend so much time worrying about all there is to do, instead of actually doing it. I know. I know. It makes no sense. If I would just do it, I wouldn’t have time to sit and worry, and inevitably I’d accomplish something.

Be Present. Beyond loving myself, this is my biggest goal. As I touched on above, worry, stress, and self-doubt really put a crappy spin on a lot great moments last year. I know this is a tough thing to do, but I want to be more present and in the moment. This fall I read Amy Poehler’s new book Yes Please (If you haven’t read it, I HIGHLY recommend it.) While I learned so much from that book, there’s a particular chapter toward the end where she talks about time traveling. It’s one of my favorites from the book. And I know this won’t make any sense, but being present in a moment and taking in everything around you allows you to travel back in time and relive and experience those awesome and amazing moments. I’m so sick of letting stress and worry ruin some of the best times of my life. It has to stop.

Practice Confidence. This ties in with loving myself. I lack confidence like you wouldn’t believe. and instead of getting better, I think I’m getting worse. I honestly have no idea how to fix this issue. But I’m determined. If anyone has tips, books, etc., please throw them my way. However, I will say one of the things I want to stop myself from doing is apologizing. By that I mean apologizing for who I am, how I feel, or what I want to do. Now, clearly if I say something or do something wrong to someone, that’s a different matter. However, my thoughts, opinions, and lifestyle choices do not need to be preempted or followed up with an apology.

Simplify. I mean this in two different ways. First, I need to decrease the amount of stuff in my house. If you saw my attic, basement, and spare bedroom, you’d think I was a hoarder. Okay, maybe it’s not THAT bad, but I have way too much stuff. My goal is to go through each room and get rid of the things I no longer use and need. Secondly, I’m slowly realizing that I can’t do it all. While it’s fun to try new things, I need to limit my scope a bit and focus on what I love the most. The things that make me the happiest. As they say, “you can do anything, but you can’t do everything.”

Mix it up. Lastly, 2015 is going to be about change. In the Yes Please chapter I mentioned earlier Amy Poehler says, “Change is the only constant. Your ability to navigate and tolerate change and its painful uncomfortableness directly correlates to your happiness and general well-being.” Every day for the past two years I’ve done things almost exactly the same way. I’ve become a creature of habit, I’ve become comfortable, and I don’t want to change. I guess I’m scared. However, what I’m doing doesn’t seem to be working for me. Last year you might remember me talking about my 52 Habits. Each week of the year I wanted to break a bad habit. I wanted to change. Well, it lasted a good two weeks. I’ve been doing the same thing ever sense. I’m no closer to my ice cream sandwich raft. It’s time for a change. I’m ready.

That’s it, my friends. Some semblance of my goals for 2015 and beyond. Plus, I hope it lets you know why I disappeared for a while.

Again, thanks so much for hanging in and being so kind while I took a little time to breathe, think, and plan. Now let’s get back to some recipes, decorating ideas, crafts, DIYs, and so much more!

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Comments

  • Deb @ PaperTurtle at

    Hey there, Michael. Well, I just want to come over there and give you a great big hug. I’m proud of you for sharing your personal goals on your blog, and also proud that you are going to reclaim this space as YOURS. Maybe less pressure to post beautiful DIYs and yummy looking food (I know you spend a lot of time setting that up and photographing it!) will help you relax and remember your true essence. As I read through this post I couldn’t help thinking how much you might benefit from yoga. Keep on keeping on – there are brighter days ahead!!! xoxoxox

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thanks Deb!

      I often thought about Yoga too. Again, it’s one of those things I need to stop thinking about and just start. I really appreciate all of your comments and support!

      xo Michael

  • NormaJean at

    Michael,

    Thanks for being transparent. Many of the things you discussed are things we all deal with at one time or another. Although, I’m sorry you are experiencing these issues in your life, it is good to know that there are others going through the same kinds of things. We are not alone! The good news is that you have made a decision to do something about it. Celebrate your victories and do not despair when you are sometimes less successful. Just try, try, again! I salute you! We reach our goals by taking one step at a time.

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thank you Norma!

      I guess the first start is putting it out there, right? Thanks so much for your kind words and encouragement!

      xo Michael

  • Nanci at

    I applaud your honesty….and you wrote words I think all the time! I just want to say that what drew me to your blog was the effortless simplicity that is clearly a gift you carry. if you stay true to that you cannot go wrong! I think I would have a hard time being alone all the time also…we are social by nature so get on out there & mingle Sir!

    2015 is a year of fun…joy & love….I feel it!

    Cheers to you!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Let’s hope you’re right Nanci! Joy and Love!! πŸ™‚

      Thank you. Wishing you a great 2015 as well.

      xo Michael

  • Lisa In The NW at

    Thanks for being real Michael! In the world of blogging I can only imagine the pressure of being “perfect”. I don’t have a book recommendation but I do LOVE the daily emails I signed up for from this website. marcandangel.com I have no connection to them but their tagline is… Practical Tips for Productive Living. I think most of us can relate to so many of your struggles. I hope you find joy and peace in the new year.

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thanks Lisa! I will definitely check that out.

      xo Michael

  • Susan at

    That’s a lot of goals! Ultimately though, it’s good to put it all out on the table and take stock of the year past and the year ahead. Instead of resolutions, which i find can be extensive and therefore failure-inducing, I typically come up with a yearly CAMPAIGN. I even give it a slogan. One year was “Vanity Now!” (use of the exclamation mark is intentional) which was because I had neglected myself too much, never making time for my own needs or comfort. In that year, I hired a personal trainer, joined a gym, had my teeth whitened, went to the dermatologist, bought lipstick and actually wore it, painted my nails more … you get the idea. Last year was “The Year of No” because I had overextended myself frequently enough that it was my new normal. I realized it when one of my kids wanted to tell me something and my inner voice was saying “I don’t have time to hear this, I wish he’d hurry up.” That was not right to put it simply. The next year, I turned down freelance work that I didn’t have time for, actually went on a vacation with my family, and didn’t feel bad when I turned down people and things that I simply had no time or energy for. This year’s campaign is “Let it go.” Whether that be weight gain, too much drama and stress, or whatever, my yearly campaign theme will sustain me. Good luck and best wishes for 2015!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Wow Susan, it sounds like your campaigns really work for you. I was trying to come up with a word of a year myself and just got bogged down with finding the right one. It was getting me nowhere. Hence my extensive list. Ha! I know it’s a lot. My goal is to break them down a bit more and tackle something new when I’m ready. *fingers crossed*

      Thanks for sharing!

      xo Michael

  • Nicole Kasprzyk at

    I love this post, Michael and thank you for sharing! So many of us are going through the same things and it’s nice to know we’re not alone. The first step to change is admitting it and facing it and you’ve just done that – way to go! I hope that you find peace and happiness in 2015!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      So it seems! I’ve been so surprised at the response of this post. It’s amazing. Thanks so much for the support and comment. πŸ™‚

      xo Michael

  • Debbie at

    I am so glad you are back, up and running! I have been checking your blog every day and no
    new Michael stories. I do not blame you for taking a break. The work that goes into blogging must be comprehensive and so TIME consuming. That is the bare bones reason I have not started a blog plus the fact I too have little to no self confidence. I was raised in a very male dominated family and
    it messes with your mind. I am the eldest and a female and that made little difference. It has taken years just to type that line and put it out there. You are on the right path with good food and exercise! Every one needs to decompress after the holidays and just flow and hang how you want. If you were here I would take you to lunch! Take care Michael.

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thanks Deb. πŸ™‚ I should have left a note that I’d be gone for a while. Sorry to hear you struggle with self confidence too. Maybe starting a blog would help break that fear? If it’s something you want to do.

      Wishing you the best in 2015. πŸ™‚

      xo Michael

  • queendeke at

    Agree with previous comments…Ease up on the self criticism and accept yourself, warts and all. After all, you are wonderfully and beautifully made. We all have self doubts, but attempt to counterbalance it with the confidences we have in our abilities and talents.
    You need to find companionship and socialization! A person or two with whom you can share your feelings and concerns. Listen to what they have to say, it can ground you! I use to deal with the imprisoning need of perfectionism and then suffer in silence. Once I gave voice to my frustrations I was told no one else held me to such impossible standards by which I was crippling myself.
    As you said – – simply! Set reasonable goals, such as blogging once every 7-8 days. We can easily adjust to a new schedule, just let us know. Continue to share and we will be supportive. We are here for you!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thank you! I’m definitely working on being a better me. I really appreciate your advice. πŸ™‚

      Thanks again!
      xo Michael

  • Melissa Leach at

    Honesty is the best policy…thanks for yours. 2014 was a year for me too. I am working on simply choosing joy this year. I hope you find it as well. One step at a time…we’ll get there. You are amazing don’t doubt it for a minute.

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      That’s it! One step at a time. Rome wasn’t conquered in a day. Wishing you lots of joy this year.

      xo Michael

  • Vanessa at

    Dear Micheal,

    I am so glad that you put this all in words and “out” there. I too, have many of the same issues you are bringing up. It is very hard to be a people pleaser- and I think maybe for me and possibly you- that is where the hard work needs to start. Worrying about what others think, how you will be portrayed, what if I say no…etc; this in turn contributes to many other issues and it is ONE vicious circle-spinning if you will. What I have started to realize as I get older (I am much older than you), is “who really gives a (blank) what others think”…really, it’s that simple. I know you need people to like you to make a living, but if you are yourself, the people that like you are the people you want around-or want as followers. Honestly, I enjoy when you are personal- and of course I like the food and design as well. And believe me, I know changing is hard it takes work and support…if it were easy success would be boring. πŸ™‚

    FYI-I really like to follow you on instagram…you seem yourself and that’s how it should be! Be you and don’t be afraid!

    Cheers to 2015!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Vanessa –

      Thank you! I certainly think you hit the nail on the head. One quote I repeat to myself often is, “What other people think of you is none of your business.” I think it’s from Deepak Chopra. It’s one of my favorites, but I’m not great at putting it into practice. I guess it’s hard to remember in the moment.

      Anywho. Thank you so much. All the best to you in 2015 and beyond.

      xo Michael

  • Deidra Dee Dee Roe at

    Michael, we could not be more on the same page! I have people tell me all the time, “If only you could see yourself from my eyes, you would see a whole different story.” We are by nature our worst enemies, our biggest critic. I see you as fantastically brilliant, smart, savvy, fun, creative and full of life. Just imagine how God sees you- you are the apple of His eye, He takes great delight in you, He created you, He thinks you are wonderfully and fearfully made!
    Wishing you all the best in 2015! We will both conquer this year! Hang in there my friend!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Deidra – I really appreciate your sweet, sweet words. Thank you so much! Hopefully this year will allow me to see myself the same. πŸ™‚

      xo Michael

  • Linda at

    Pretty amazing and honest stuff you wrote Michael. Don’t be too hard on yourself. I can relate to alot of what you said. I hope you don’t mind but I think I am going to share some of what you wrote with my high school classes. The kids get pretty down on themselves around here and you offer a plan they can use….and that I can use!

    I love you posts; I told you one time I wished you were my son so I could come and visit you!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Awww! Thanks so much Linda. I’m trying not to be too hard, but I do think I need a swift kick in the pants. Haha. And of course, if any of what I said can be helpful – feel free to share.

      xo Michael

  • Pam Williams at

    Writing these things down gives a lot of power to changing whatever you are wanting to change. There is a lady in my office who is the smartest person I’ve ever known, when it’s time to bill her clients she feels bad charging them for her time. When her answers or assistance could save them tremendously in time and money. She doesn’t see the value in herself that I do. I think it’s fine to make goals and keep on bettering yourself, but see the value in yourself as well! You are inspiring, creative, interesting, and have many followers (including me obviously) that enjoy your perspective style and wit. Ask us about liking you, we do!!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Pam, I really appreciate your perspective and definitely think I could benefit from seeing the value in what I do. I think that all goes back with the whole self confidence thing.

      And I’m so glad y’all like me. πŸ™‚

      xo Michael

  • Spyarchive at

    Thank you for sharing – it’s lovely to see we share many of the same anxieties. I imagine much of this was frightening to write. You seem like a creating and caring individual. If I may be so bold, may I suggest something? Find someone or something else to advocate for. It has the tandem effects of spring-boarding you into change by forcing you into new experiences, and it’s a huge confidence booster. Honestly, it’s the reason I became a lawyer: people will assert themselves for others where they lack the confidence to do so for themselves. I think if you find a cause you’re passionate about, you’ll discover just how capable you are, and that confidence begins to translate into your personal life. It’s like how a lot of people give great advice to their friends, but they don’t follow their own good advice when they find themselves in similar situations.

    It might take time to find a cause or reason worth dedicating some of your time to, but if you do stumble across it, don’t let your fear of change dissuade you!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      This is such valuable advice. I’m actually reading a book (which I’m going to talk about in today’s post) and it’s touches on the same idea – compassion.

      Thank you you SO much for this!

      xo Michael

  • Mary Lou at

    Michael, So impressed by your honest self-assessment. Lack of self confidence is common to all of us, I suspect. It is often hard to see ourselves as others do, especially because we carry that “little child” inside us that absorbed all sorts of stuff as we grew up. I found meditation helped me, as well as some counseling techniques: let that little kid inside you know that you’re grown up now and can take care of things; write a list of what you like and don’t like about yourself and see how it matches up to feed-back from others. I think you will find your adult self is very capable and gifted too!
    Try to stay as true to to you as you can. I ask for grace each morning to do so and give thanks for the day at the end. That seems to put things in perspective for me.
    All the comments above are so helpful. Check out the self help section of books on line or in a store. I’d just recommend that you avoid any that tell you you’ll be perfect in so many days! None of us are perfect, although we think we have to be.
    Do what your heart tells you. Follow your gut. You can never go wrong being true to the voice that is you!
    I look forward to your future posts!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thanks Mary Lou! You made some fabulous points. And I actually just started meditation today. πŸ™‚

      xo Michael

  • Jeanette Bruffett at

    Lovely words! Michael I wanted to let you know (because I lurk and rarely comment) that I so enjoy coming by here to see what your up too and just to unwind and relax. I usually have busy day’s but taking a moment with a cup of tea and logging in here is such a joy. I need to tell you that more often! That may be one of my “resolutions”….letting others know the impact they have on my life even in the smallest ways πŸ™‚ Take this year to learn to love yourself…fix the things you cannot live with and LIVE. Do what you want on this blog. Its yours….we are along for the ride and I’m enjoying it all!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Jeanette – I can’t tell you how much I appreciate you taking the time to comment. Sometimes I feel like I’m speaking to an empty room. You (and so many others) completely obliterated those thoughts.

      Thank you. Thank you!
      Michael

  • Delilah at

    Love it Michael!!
    Thank you for being REAL. You’re an inspiration and I “like” you! πŸ™‚ I do get it though and pray that you will learn to “like” you too!
    Hugs!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thank you Delilah! πŸ™‚

      xo Michael

  • Paul B at

    Hey Michael. Just wanted to let you know, that whatever you wish to write about on your blog, I’ll still be a fan and a follower. Don’t worry about sharing more personal stories. We your readers, I’m sure will remain loyal. Your list of goals made me think, holy crap, could be me speaking. I’m grateful for all the wonderful things that happened to me in 2014 but I too work from home and lack confidence. I don’t like my weight. I eat too much crap. And yes I can spend whole days in my mind going over how awful I think I am to know. You wouldn’t know it to meet me though. So whatever books and ideas which come your way in 2015, I’ll be interested to see if they help. Wishing you heaps of success and love in 2015. Especially to yourself. Send yourself a valentine this year P xxxxx

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thanks so much for your note Paul. I appreciate the fact that you’ll follow along no matter which way my path may take me. I’m returning the wish of success and love. Thanks. πŸ™‚

      xo Michael

  • Frank at

    hey michael,
    i’ve read your post and think you are even more amazing than ever. you don’t even know how strong and courageous you sound by sharing your true feelings. you have inspired me before with your clean, beautifully decorated home and beautiful christmas trees, but this post is probably the most inspiring. i wish you well in 2015 and by the look of all these replies to your post, it seems like you have a great group of supportive friends that want to be a part of your personal journey of better health, spiritual and physical.

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Frank, thank you so much for your message. It’s good to know that these posts can be just as inspiring / valuable.

      xo Michael

  • Linda B at

    I was so happy to see you back today. Now that I have read your blog, I am grateful to you even more. I love what you do, and appreciate all your honesty and all the EFFORT you put forth all the time.
    I look forward to the year being stellar for you.
    I really prefer the personal part of the blogging relationship.
    It is my hope that the support you receive here will uplift you and confirm that you are doing the right thing.
    Happy New Year.

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thanks so much Linda! πŸ™‚

      xo Michael

  • Mia at

    I needed this post!

    xoxo…

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      πŸ™‚

      xo Michael

  • Meredith at

    Michael,
    Thank you for your warm and personal post. I enjoyed it so much, not because you’re struggling, but because so much of what you said is me. I feel for you and love your blog. I have to think that your soul-searching is the opening of a kind of door…one that can be liberating on the other side. Go with your gut and remember, every small step and every failure is an action. Action is forward movement. Forward movement is you getting closer to your goals.

    You rock.

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Meredith –

      I’m so glad that I took the time to write this post. It’s so easy to think you are alone sometimes, but when you realize so many others are dealing with many of the same things – it comforting.

      Thanks for writing and for your supportive comments. πŸ™‚

      xo Michael

  • sharon at

    you come across as such a sweet soul. your post was very truthful and i applaud you. i think the older we get the easier things come. hang in there and remember you have a ton of people pulling for you. my phrase this year is ….in the scheme of things……. meaning, so little really matters in the small day to day things…..so i’m trying to stay grounded and present. xo

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Sounds like a great goal Sharon. Thank you for your kind words.

      xo Michael

  • Jackie at

    How refreshing… looking forward to following this journey with you! Hugs to you, Michael

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thank you!

      xo Michael

  • Sandi at

    Thank-you for your courage and honesty. One of my favourite quotes by Brene Brown goes as follows:

    Vulnerability is not weakness. And that myth is profoundly dangerous. Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.

    Wishing you love and best wishes for 2015!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thank you for this reminder Sandi. I love Brene Brown and read a few of her books.

      xo Michael

  • Jenn Baum at

    You are not alone in your struggles. We all have them. Spirituality help with my daily challenges. You are brave to share and courageous to look at them in the face and make a plan. You are loved and admired by many! Blessings to you in 2015!!!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thank you Jenn! Wishing you a fab 2015.

      xo Michael

  • Sue at

    Thank you for being so honest. I know how you feel b/c I often feel those exact things myself! I imagine it must be extremely hard to feel them in a public way though, being a well-known blogger. I’m also a people-pleaser so I know that trying to please everyone is exhausting…and also impossible. I try to remind myself of that quote about being the “ripest, juiciest peach in the world” and some people still not liking peaches. (I’m pretty sure I pinned that from you πŸ™‚ ) It’s true. I also find that trying to please everyone makes me lose who I am, and also contributes to me not liking myself. I want to be kinder to myself in 2015 and stop seeing myself as someone who needs to be fixed. You don’t need “fixing” either. I’ve been reading your blog from the beginning, b/c I LIKE YOU πŸ™‚ I like who you are and you make me feel happy. You want to know why? Because you have a good spirit and it radiates out to others—even through a computer screen. πŸ™‚

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      I appreciate that, Sue! Thank you. Also, thanks for reminding me of that quote. It’s one of my favorites and one that comes to mind often. Hoping you achieve all of your goals in 2015 as well.

      xo Michael

  • Dani at

    Michael, so glad to see all the responses to your blog today. Many of them already say the same words I would share with you. So glad you’re back in 2015 and striving to continue with your life in such a visable way. I am much older than you so feel like as a “mom”, I want to share with you that we all feel these feelings. Not matter who we are or where we are in life, at one time or another we go thru these same emotions. Some folks just move on thru it as you are doing this year.

    Here’s to a wonderful 2015. You are not alone nor should you ever feel lonely. Think of all of us who are right here with you, my friend.

  • Mike @ Country Cottage Decorating at

    Great post Mike. Here’s to 2015. May it bring you all of the happiness you deserve. Remember that true happiness begins with being at peace. Be at peace with yourself and happiness will find you!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thank you very much Mike! πŸ™‚

      xo Michael

  • Funky Junk Interiors at

    Michael, I always love your new years posts. They are honest to a fault, and know, help way more than you’ll ever realize.

    You are on the right path, my friend. Look forward, get offline more, and you’ll become your own world moreso. Ask me how I know.

    It can be really noisy online. I like to pick and choose who’s door I knock on to maintain the quiet. πŸ™‚

    And there’s something to be said for old school blogging. Blog about life, not the other way around. If it isn’t fun, don’t do it! πŸ™‚

    Welcome back! Your way!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thanks as always D! You know JUST what to say. And you’re welcome to pink cake anytime. Haha!

      xo Michael

  • Karalee at

    Hey Michael, really enjoyed your post today. Wow, we sound quite alike πŸ™‚ It takes courage to put it all out there for everyone to read….well done. I commend you for that. Funny how being our real selves sounds so easy to do, but in reality it’s not so easy for some of us. Nothing happens overnight, but I can tell you, you will feel it in your heart, soul, whole being when you’ve managed to make positive change….even though you’re working at it, it kind of sneaks up on you~ in a good way. I’m 50…still constantly learning, growing & making positive change. One thing I try to do everyday is be grateful. Difficult some days when I’m down or a little cranky…but once you really see how much around you there is to be grateful for, somewhere inside it does make a difference.
    Thank you for being so brave πŸ™‚

  • Kris at

    Thank you, Michael for writing so honestly. You are not alone. There are so many of us that can completely identify. Please keep on keeping it real and write what makes you happy and what your heart desires. Remember, you have great strength. Onward and upward in 2015! πŸ™‚

  • Janet St. at

    Maybe you need to be in another location, at least for a while. I’ve found that in my life experience, when people aren’t happy with themselves, it often it stems from not being able to live in a way that really lets their life unfold honestly and completely. They are hemmed in by the expectations of others and sometimes waiting for “permission” and that doesn’t work.

    I was struck by your love for Portland, Oregon and you seemed to really “fit” there.

    Be bold, be happy, and take a chance. You deserve true happiness.

  • Reenie at

    Thx for keeping it real Michael. I feel the same way you do on a lot of your points.

    Hang in there ~ and here’s to a great 2015 year!!

    xo

  • Maralyn Woods at

    Michael, I’m so glad to see you back and sharing your life with us. I agree with the 33 comments above and I truly hope that you soak up the love we all feel for you. You are a thoroughly likeable and loveable person and you need to know that. I’m much older than you and picked up on the habit of mantras in the hippy-dippy 60s. Every morning look yourself in the eye in your mirror and tell yourself what you need to hear. “Michael, you are one hell of a great guy and I really like you.” It can’t hurt and the habit’s been working for me for years. I wish the very best for you in 2015 and beyond.

  • Brittney at

    Michael,

    This post is the best thing I’ve read in the blogosphere in 2015. Thank you for being so honest about your goals and insecurities. I can relate to your post on so many levels…for instance, I’m dealing with my own insecurities. I live in a small town, I love the town, I have amazing friends, a great job with an even better team of coworkers… but the dating pool is non existent -I’ve lived here for 4 years and only dated 2 people! That’s CRAZY for someone in her mid twenties! Right? Anyway, I’ve never focused too much on my dating life but here lately it seems like I’m feeling more and more alone. All of my friends are married with kids (several of them are having their second child) and I feel like I missed the train. It’s so strange…because just a year ago I was perfectly content. Now, I’m starting to wonder whats wrong with me? Why is it that I’m not meeting people? Will I ever find someone to have adventures with? Of course I think “I need to lose weight” or “I need to go out to the bars more” (I hate going to bars) “when I go to the bars I need to be more confident and approach someone” “or at least make eye contact” ahhhh! It’s never ending and really frustrating. You spoke about change and routine, I’m starting to wonder if maybe I’ve been too complacent. I’m not really branching out or taking risks. Maybe 2015 is the year I shake things up and do something drastic? Or maybe I’ll be in the exact same place this time next year…who knows.

    I wish you all the best! Please don’t be too hard on yourself and I really hope you find your ice cream raft!

    With love,
    -Alone in Oklahoma

    P.s. The Pioneer Woman used to do a series where people would write into her and ask for advice regarding personal matters. She would answer their questions on her blog. Anyway, they would sign off with an anonymous name that reflects their problem. For ex. “Lost in Minnesota,” “Dogless in PA” or “Not sure in New York” lol so after I wrote my comment I felt like I’d just written into “Dear PW” haha! Sorry for the novel! smh

  • Kim@NewlyWoodwards at

    This is a large list, but if anyone can tackle it, you can. 2014 was the first year that I was home and freelancing and I definitely battled with some of the same “issues” – especially saying “no” and letting all the stuff build up and get overwhelming (all while wasting time not being productive). I backed away from several commitments that weren’t good for me and that made such an impact. I also made a concerted effort to surround myself by those who really cared about me and encouraged me. This helped immensely. I know you have some awesome friends – along with all of those who care about you online πŸ˜‰ – so rely on those folks. We all love you for a reason, so hope you can do the same this year.

    (P.S. I’m reading 10 percent happier right now, and I think you may like it. Has some things in there that have helped me a lot.)

  • Diane@InMyOwnStyle at

    XOXO Michael for putting this out there. It sounds like you know what you need to do. Little steps at a time will get you to your goals. You know I have told many times that you have such great style and do everything so well. You don’t see what others see in you yet or maybe you are great at what you do, but lost your passion having to do it all. Listen to that little voice in your head – it knows best. As you get older it is easier to turn out the noise and listen within to find the joy in life.

    Getting back to the way we used to blog – I am all for that, too. It was fun back then before Pinterest and the social media pressure to be perfect and “On” all the time. No one needs that. Pick and choose a few things you enjoy doing and say goodbye to the rest. You will be surprised at how freeing it is and allows you to really focus on your passions. XO

  • Debra W at

    Michael, I have two words for you: “BE YOURSELF.” You are truly a wonderful person in so many ways. An inspiration to many through your blog, whether it be with your words, laughter, honesty, design, cooking, pictures, etc. etc. Sounds to me like a really great guy!!! Much love to you!!! And God bless!!!

  • Jessica at

    Thank you for sharing and for being so honest in this entry.

    I found myself nodding along in agreement as I read through your 2015 goals, especially the “Just Start” and “Be Present” ones. I completely understand what it’s like to have so much on your plate that you literally don’t know where to start so instead you waste time doing other things. You are definitely not alone! This may sound ridiculous, but setting a timer has really helped me find motivation when I need it most. I tell myself I only have to do something for X minutes, but then when the timer goes off I almost always just want to finish.

    I wish you all the best in 2015 and have complete faith that you will reach your goals! I look forward to reading about how things are progressing and judging by all of the lovely comments above I’m not alone πŸ™‚

  • Lori H at

    Michael, you are so brave, putting your honest thoughts and goals out there. Maybe you don’t like you, but it appears that there are lots of us who do like you πŸ™‚
    If I could make one suggestion for your “simplify” goal – get this book and read it -it is short and you may think it’s just another clutter buster book, but it isn’t (and I have read tons of those books!):
    The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo

    She talks about how this book has changed lives, and I would agree. Try it!

    Good luck and best wishes in 2015! I hope to see more of your great ideas here.

    Lori

  • Alice at

    Hi Michael,
    I’m am always happy to see your posts arrive. Your goals for 2015 are ambitious, and may lead you in directions that will surprise you. I anticipate a very exciting and rewarding personal and blogging year for you.

    I have found that many of the most creative people I know have difficulty liking themselves. I don’t have the definitive personal answer for you, but I do know that you are liked by tons of people that follow your blog. We all need to seek out our true selves; you can , and will.

    Sincerely,
    Alice

    • pam at

      M aturing Mightily!
      I nspirational!
      C harismatic!
      H andsome!
      A uspicious!
      E ntrepreneur!
      L oved by his followers!

      I nstills love for creativity!
      B lessing to others!
      C harms US!!

      • Rylan at

        That was awesome!

        • pam at

          Thank you, Rylan!

      • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

        I just love this Pam!! Thank you so much for your kind and equally clever response. πŸ™‚

        xo Michael

        • pam at

          Thank you, Michael! You are such a fun read! Always look so forward to your blog, your ideas and take on things….so amazing! Love it and you!

  • Steph at

    Thank you for being so honest! I can relate to so much of what you are feeling! Someone mentioned trying yoga and I agree, it helped me to remember to breathe and pay attention to my body when I’m feeling stressed and a million miles away from my day.

    Remember it’s okay to say “no” and there are so many polite ways to do it for us people pleasers, like ” I have so many things on my plate right now I don’t feel I could give your project the attention it deserves.”

    I hope everyday this year you will think of something you are proud of and it will help you heal your soul. You are very talented and inspire so many, I wish you many good things in 2015!!!!

  • Elin at

    I’m right there with you with your goals. Especially the first one about loving yourself.

    About two years ago I lost 100 pounds. I thought, while I was losing weight, that once I did that, I’d be happy and my problems would go away. They got worse. What I did was just put a bigger band aid on issues that needed real healing. So in the meantime, I’ve gained some of the weight back, which I’m not happy about, and I’m feeling sluggish and just blah about myself.

    So I’m looking forward to this new year in the hopes that I’ll get back on track and will get better, not just physically, but all around. I wish you the same and look forward to seeing your updates on how you’re doing.

    Happy + Healthy New Year!
    E

  • Kelly at

    I think you could be writing for any of us Michael. I think being honest is the first step in liking yourself – because who couldn’t HONESTLY like you? You’re awesome. I started liking myself when I started doing yoga almost 20 years ago. I think a lot of my dislike was related to a disconnect to my body. I was on the mat doing some simple yoga poses and came to the realization that I was pretty cool (even if I couldn’t move the way the teacher was). Just in case this resonates…… πŸ™‚

  • Tara at

    What a huge thing for you to do…share your innermost feelings & thoughts with the world. That’s to be applauded straight away, and I hope that all your readers reassure you that your view of yourself is misguided…gain strength from all the positivity people send your way πŸ˜‰

  • Kimberly ~ Serendipity Refined at

    Happy New Year, Michael! There are a couple of goals on your list that I need to adopt for this year as well! Here’s to a wonderful 2015! xo, Kimberly

  • Pam at Frippery at

    Perfect post Michael. You have captured what many of us struggle with. Know that you are not alone.
    I have not been posting on my blog lately because I didn’t have a lot of pretty things to gush about. My reality was a bit harsh in the last few years and I thought people came for the pretty stuff. Looking back, many of my most popular posts were the nitty gritty of life. So go for the reality not just the pretty.
    Being honest is sometimes hard, especially being honest with yourself. Write for you and your audience will be there.
    Now a little lesson I have learned about self love. In the last several years we have dealt with job loss and medical bills resulting in the necessity of selling our home soon. Our home was central to my blog. I, like you, tended to be a bit of a loner, always backing out of invites and social occasions. In 2013 I was diagnosed with breast cancer, had surgery and radiation and also a hysterectomy due to the preventative medication I will be taking for the next 5 years. (It causes uterine cancer). So I was ready to walk into 2015 with a fresh bill of health after seeing all of my docs in December. After a routine scan they found I had kidney cancer. Yes I shouted a big WTF to the heavens. I was lucky, as with my breast cancer it was found early and treatable. So Tuesday I had a partial nephrectomy and it was successful. My doc says I have no reason to worry, I am cancer free once again.
    Now to my long overdue point. During all of this I found my worse and most stressful times were when I was alone. So I began accepting every social invite I received and realized I have so many people around me who truly love me for who I am. They actually enjoy spending time with me. They tell me they love my upbeat attitude in the face of hard times and that I have actually been a lesson in living life to them! Really? What a step in the direction of loving ones self.I have had a blast with friends this past month just laughing and living. Something I often avoided. When you realize how much others like you and value your company it goes along way towards self love.
    Get out there and socialize. It may be hard at first but life is really about people and moments which most of your goals are directed towards. Don’t stop the pretty, we all love that, but add more Michael to the mix.
    Have a happy, healthy new year filled with laughter and love, Pam

  • Olivia at

    Good morning Michael,
    I feel uncomfortable commenting on this post because it is so personal and we don’t know each other but…thank you for sharing. I agree with all of the supportive comments above so I’ll get right to my suggestion: hire help. Many entrepreneurs miss this step because they are so used to doing it all but a virtual assistant or a part-time in person strategic partner to help you stage, edit, keep up with coding , whatever, can be invaluable. Maybe even an intern could help you achieve some of your goals and make the whole process more enjoyable. I don’t know your business model but often the added productivity will balance out the cost in a short period of time. Good luck! I will be reading!
    Olivia

  • Alexa~FurnishMyWay at

    Thank you so much for sharing your heart. I was really touched by all your words and the sincerity of you wanting share ‘you’ and who you truly are. I say more power to ya for throwing out the “rule book.” I love that. This post was very inspiring. Parts of it, I felt like I was reading something I wrote in my own private writings. So knowing that these ponderous thoughts came from you was very heartwarming and truly hit home. Thanks again for sharing.

  • Stephanie at

    Well, I suppose it won’t help to tell you how much everyone ELSE likes you and thinks you’re awesome! Haha. I too live alone and work from home, so I know the importance of being comfortable with yourself. I took some steps to love myself a few years ago that worked for me, and it was the best decision I ever made for myself. Everyone’s path is different, and I know you’ll find your way on YOURS. πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

    A wise man I know once said, “Things always work themselves out. Not always in the way you plan or the way you want, but they do always work out.” I like to remember that when things get tangled in my life.

    Here’s to a wonderful 2015. May good things come your way!

  • Kristina at

    Wonderful goals Michael! I love how you can say what so many of us have on our minds. I know I’ve struggled with continuing blogging because my blog doesn’t look like others that I read. My pictures aren’t perfect, I don’t have great weekly posts, and I don’t have a ton of followers. But I had to remember that I didn’t start my blog for those things. It helps to remember why you began. Anyway, no matter what you post, I’m a loyal follower! Have been for years, I love your stuff =) Loving myself, eating better, and being present are all part of my plan this year too! You are not in this alone!

  • Dee at

    Thank you for your honesty and your courage. I am a frequent reader of your blog and always enjoy your special and unique take on life. I am especially drawn to your post today. I empathize with you in much of what you are feeling. I am currently reading a wonderful book by Brene Brown called “Daring Greatly: How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead.” She’s done some amazing TED talks, too. She talks about how what we really crave is community and the most comforting words one can hear is “Me too.” So, from another work-from-home, alone-a lot, yes-sayer, people-pleaser, perfectionist, overwhelmed, often over-thinking, non-starting soul in the universe, I say to you, “Me too.” You’re not alone, friend.

  • Carolyn at

    I love this post because you’ve shared what is going on in your life, but as you can see we can all totally relate. Don’ t worry about this space needing to be perfect- life sure isn’t! Some of the blogs I so enjoyed reading have lost some of their charm as they’ve gone in that direction.

    Being present is my favorite from your list above. So many times I find myself on auto pilot and I’ve learned to stop and just try to enjoy what’s around me. So, cheers to a fabulous 2015, and may you find it to be full of many enjoyable experiences!

  • Susan at

    I agree with what others have already said-identifying what you want to change is the first step.
    Usually people who start giving to others see their own self esteem skyrocket, so find a group you could give your time and effort to on a regular basis and see what happens.

    First, read this: (hopefully no one be offended by the colorful language, LOL )
    http://markmanson.net/not-giving-a-fuck

    I have found that meditation ( just ten mins a day) and yoga ( again, just ten mins a day) keep me grounded/happy/whatever. Remember that bloggers and the blog-o-sphere and its ilk is very surface skimming; there is no real depth of soul to making things pretty, cooking great food, etc. It’s very competitive for all the wrong reasons.

    If there is no one you have a true connection with, someone to share it all with, it’s all moot.

    Minimalism is also a good thing: http://www.becomingminimalist.com/

    Get on a dating service. Volunteer. Practice minimalism! Yoga/meditate.
    Plan you year at one time-goals vs time will help you see whats possible.

    Good luck kiddo-here’s to a FAB 2015!

  • Fonda Rush at

    Why do so many people apologize for the content of their blogs? It’s your blog. Do with it what you please. If we come along for the ride, okay. But, if we don’t want to, that’s okay, too. You do what you need to do. Either we are there, or we aren’t. And, that is no reflection on you, believe it or not.

  • Rylan at

    I’m so glad I found your blog! Not only do I love your style but I love that you’re real. And honest. I read quite a few other blogs and with the exception of one or two they are all putting out this very perfect Normal Rockwell life. Everything’s perfect. Them, husbands, kids, houses, friends-everything. And good for them. But it’s a great of fresh “blog” air to read how someone is really feeling. Someone like me. I felt like I was reading my own thoughts. I hope for a year of happiness for you and then all the years after that!

  • Dana Nichols at

    I have many of the same goals for 2015 as you do. Nine days in and I’m making some small changes and so far I’m pretty happy with my progress. Small steps! Changes that are too big all at once make me feel overwhelmed and all progress stops. I wish you success in your goals for the year. You really should like yourself.. you have tons of readers who like you just the way you are!

  • Alice at

    Well, Michael, I think you’re brave. And if you are brave, then anything is possible.

    I have learned to forgive myself in these past few years. Forgiving yourself for not being perfect, or simply accepting your limitations is very freeing. Around here, anything short of disaster is great, and disaster means blood or severe disfunction. By setting a realistic goal like that,( because isn’t that a universal truth?, that disasters sucks?), it allows me to celebrate the small things I did well on the way to avoiding disaster, and anything beyond that is truly awesome.

    So my friend, continue to be brave and you will grow to love the person we all find so fascinating!

    Cheers!
    Alice

  • Susan at

    Thanks for sharing your true feelings with us. Not an easy thing to do. You might benefit from a free 8 week Course on Jeanne Oliver’s blog- BECOMING, The Unfolding of You. It just started this week. Several people sharing their journeys. You are not alone. I have always enjoyed your blog.

    God Bless

  • Maddy at

    Thank you for sharing your feelings, and I hope you can take enough time for yourself this year to discover all the wonderful qualities you possess. Please, look at your admirable qualities, you have so many that the people who are close to you adore, just try to see yourself through their eyes. All people who care about you can’t be wrong…. The most important work you can do is to give yourself the gift of loving who you are.

  • skylar at

    I think that you are wonderful! I found your blog via a link and ended up reading almost every post! I teared up a bit reading your post today. You are so creative and clearly love people and have a warm, friendly spirit, in so much as you can communicate it via your blog. I appreciate what you do! Everyone needs to hear that sometimes! And as for your list, I think that if you focus on goal number one, all the others will follow! As you mentioned, let go of perfection! No one has it, and it is ultimately self defeating to even attempt it. Instead of aiming for perfection, aim for enjoyment. Life is like a dinner party — if the host is having fun, so is everyone else! Doesn’t matter if the dinner is burnt and you had to order pizza! Again, I love what you’re doing on the blog and wish the happiest of years to you!!

  • Gabby at

    I, too, will second yoga…although you need to check out Buti Yoga with Bizzie Gold…I think she will rock your socks off and you will see some amazing results. Not to mention a whole life style change. You have done some pretty incredible things that inspire millions of people. You should pat yourself on the back a little more often. I know I’d love to be able to set my own schedule instead of working 8-5 for someone else’s dream. #thebestisyettocome

  • Nick at

    It definitely takes a lot of courage to admit out loud when we just don’t like ourselves, and not a lot of us do. Believe me, you definitely are not alone in that. It’s definitely not easy to wear the smile all the time, all day and everyday! There were definitely times when I was a little shaky about my self-worth, whether it was in my professional or personal life, and admittedly, some days, still have a few stumbles here or there. Isn’t it funny how sometimes we let a couple things that we either don’t have or don’t like about ourselves overshadow the many more positive qualities and things we DO have and possess. Life is very odd like that! Obviously you have many admirable qualities that have brought you to the success you have earned for yourself (and undoubtedly more to come!)-never forget that. Reading what you put actually reminded me of something important that I plan on doing this year for myself, and maybe you can use it as well: take those positives you already know you have, and use them as a spring board or foundation if you will, to build on to and discover even more great things about yourself which I’m sure are on the edge of their seat waiting to be uncovered. I’m sure your circle of close friends and family you surround yourself with will be more than happy to help you on the journey. Keep opening yourself up to them, because by doing so, you will come to realize the love and admiration people have for you will be much more worthwhile than you could have ever realized. God bless and best of luck going forward this year, with much success that I’m sure is well on its way!

  • Cynthia at

    Hi Michael~
    I often save your posts so that I can soak them all in~ gosh, so sorry for your struggles. You know how I admire your spirit and creativity so I don’t need to repeat all that…. you are the best… even if I didn’t get your pink Christmas tree : ) Remember, you are human, have feelings, will have many more feelings, and you SHOULD have them! My feelings, while sometimes, lonely, sad, questioning, are the barometer for where I stand with myself. I always welcome them : ( but I don’t always like them. I know one thing for sure, they always tell me where I am spiritually~ Start each day looking eye to eye in the mirror telling yourself, “I am a worthwhile man, I deserve to happy and loved.” Then read something~ meditative, and toss up a thank you to the guy above, ask for his help for “today” and talk to him often~ When we’re not in a good place it’s hard to temember just how perfect we are, just where we are~ Being human is where you are right in this moment~ Please take care.
    Big Hugs, Cynthia

  • Kristen at

    You’ve obviously touched the heart of many with your post… I love it when bloggers get down to the root of things and get a little personal on their blog.
    I’ve been blogging for 8 years now and had the biggest tailspin kind of year in 2014. Nothing extraordinary happened professionally but I just felt like I was constantly spinning my wheels, not doing my absolute best work because of it, and just felt overall burnt out. I think a l of bloggers are feeling this way, and it’s really too bad.
    I hope that we can all get back to creating the content we love while still having a life. What kind of blog will we have if we have if we don’t have a life to blog about?
    Thanks for sharing!

  • Nancy Carr at

    I love you, Michael. You are wonderful and a blessing to all of us. Nothing you say or do could ever disappoint us. Just be yourself. Many of us have the same issues. You are not alone. Listen to your heart and your intuition and all will be well.

  • Lauren at

    Hi Michael, thanks so much for sharing your goals for 2015 with us. That was really brave! One thing that I’ve been working on recently is a journal in which I write down and keep track of all the positive things I’m doing (that go along with my own personal 2015 goals). Sometimes I write “full” narrative journal entries but most nights I simply make a bulleted list of what I accomplished that day (ie: I drank 80 oz. of water, I ate a salad, I brought my own coffee to work instead of buying Starbucks, I cooked myself dinner, etc.). I’m generally obsessed with making lists, but most importantly with this journal I don’t let the entries turn into to-do lists or things I could have done better (because that’s overwhelming and counterproductive). Anyway, it’s been helping me feel good about myself and reflect on all the small, positive decisions I’m making and things I’m doing on a daily basis. Baby steps.

    Also, for book recommendations I would highly suggest reading “Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Life and Love from Dear Sugar” by Cheryl Strayed (she also wrote “Wild,” which is also really good). “Dear Sugar” is also a podcast.

  • Michelle Vincent at

    Thank you for sharing your goals Michael. You can meet them! One small step at a time.

  • Brad W. at

    Michael, you are a pretty amazing young man. Not only are you being open and honest but you are putting it out there for all us strangers to read. I think we all find ourselves, to some degree, in what you have written and that’s what makes this so personal for all of us. I look at your blog and what you’ve written and think there’s a guy that has it all together. It is a good reminder for me to not be so, well, judgmental – good or bad. We can’t even pretend to know you, but, know that we are all out here rooting for you and your success. You have friends out here that you never knew you had. Call on us any time buddy!

  • April at

    Having your blog be more “you” could only mean one thing–it’s going to get even better than the awesome sauce it already is because, you, my friend, are simply AWESOME all by yourself! Can’t wait! Thanks for sharing yourself with all of your readers!

  • Molly Galler at

    Michael – Thank you for being so honest and for being brave enough to lay it all out there. First, I like you. I like you a whole lot. I love your energy, your humor and your creativity. Second, I hear you on “be present.” I struggle with that every single day. Third, if you learn how to say “no,” will you tell me your secrets? I’m working on that one too. Cheers to 2015 being our best year yet!

  • Beth of designPOST interiors at

    I don’t think we even need resolutions- just time away to refocus like you have. Seriously that’s half the battle…just figuring out what to be centered on and it you have a great start! I think if we were all more honest we would all admit we don’t like ourselves, at least not all the time! I think working for yourself has a lot to do with it bc you are constantly the only judge/critic. Blogging can be such an al-consuming job and , although I don’t want you to be unhappy it definitely made me feel better to know that it’s just as overwhelming to a “big dog” like you. I am reading Amy’s book right now and love it! Another book that is equally as funny and really stcuk with me is Carry On Warrior- read it!

  • Angela Boone at

    Just so you know, we “blogger rookies” think you are amazing. I hope you accomplish all your goals. I know you may not always have time to do this, but when I’m feeling particularly stressed or down, I like to just go for a short walk and appreciate the beauty I find in nature.

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Angela,

      I go for walks almost everyday now – even when it’s 12 degrees. I love it too! πŸ™‚ And I still feel like a “blogger rookie” so I’m right there with you. Ha!

      xo Michael

  • The Bearfoot Baker at

    Thank you for sharing this with us. I want to send you a big bear hug and hope you find the answers you are looking for on your way to your ice cream raft. Please take time for yourself because we will be here for you whenever you post or share anything.

    Hugs!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      I appreciate it Bearfoot Baker! Thanks for taking the time to comment. Wishing you the best for 2015.

      xo Michael

  • Sandi Leonard at

    I think the word you are looking for is “Michael”. It’s just that simple. It says it all.

    I am a 62 year old grandmother and pretty much everything you are trying to accomplish is what I have been trying to do all my adult life. Sometimes not even knowing that was what I was trying to do.

    This year I have made a push towards doing better. I had my first swim lesson yesterday. Blowing bubbles in the water just like a 5 year old. I had to start from the beginning. And that is OK. We all need to know it’s OK to start at the beginning.

    I too have a weight problem. Unfortunately, mine is more than yours. Am working on this too.

    I have already started purging my things. I think I can do all the things I see on the internet. “NOT” So out with all the things I know won’t happen.

    Just getting rid of stuff has made me feel lighter and more relaxed.

    This world today is all about who can be first to do something and how fast can it be done.

    I’m ready to slow it down and just enjoy life.
    I truly hope you can do the same.

    Best wishes on a amazing new year for you.

    Sandi

  • Heather at

    I know I’m just another comment in the sea of IBC love but I felt like I had to say something. Your truthfulness is so refreshing. Not one person is perfect. And it’s insane to believe that anyone is. We are human. This is why we are attracted to each other- our imperfections show the world that we embrace the human we are. Don’t let your self-dislike derail you. Forget that you dislike yourself and just put an honest-to-goodness days worth of work in every day and see how you’ll change. Keep your resolutions close but don’t let them be written in stone. Because remember, we are only human, and to err is human nature. (Did that make sense?!) Keep your head up Michael- we’re here for you. =)

  • Cindy at

    Michael,
    Your post resonated a lot with me. I had a “Just Survive” kind of 2014, following a less than stellar 2013. But like you, I want to make 2015 the year I become happy again! Here’s wishing you a lot of success in reaching your goals and I look forward to seeing your progress and all the exciting things you have planned for this year!

    All the Best – Cindy

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      I know the feeling Cindy! Wishing you all the best in 2015! Thanks so much for taking the time to comment.

      xo Michael

  • Linda H at

    This came to my electronic in-box this morning. I am feeling so inspired from reading this. It’s a simple philosophy, but so overlooked in this busy society we travel through. Love, L

    When we are feeling unloved and depressed and empty inside, finding someone to give us love is not really the solution.
    –Gerald G. Jampolsky, M.D.

    Each of us wants to be significant to someone else. And we are – we’re significant to all the lives we’re touching at this very moment.

    The emptiness we sometimes feel is a good reminder that the women and men in our lives need our attention. Too much self-focus fosters our feelings of loneliness, and then with desperation we look to others to fill us up. The paradox is that we heal ourselves while offering our attention to another who is, by design, on our path.

    It is not by chance our lives are intertwined. Loving someone today will heal two wounds, ours and theirs.

  • JoEllen at

    I have found myself reflecting on this post all week. I have read so many of the comments others have left you, and I’m sure my own comment will be repetitive, but I just had to come back and leave my two cents.

    As I thought about this post, it was hard for me to pinpoint exactly what makes me happy. Of course I’m happy to be with my family, and I have a job I love, but I wanted to be more specific in finding where my happiness actually stemmed from.

    Suddenly it occurred to me, I determined that I am the happiest when I am in the service of others. I work in the healthcare field with terminally ill patients, and of course my family life (with three kids) requires enormous amounts of service. I know this sounds totally cliche, but it was a real epiphany for me to be able to really name my happiness. I am happy when I lose myself in others.

    I would encourage you to find some volunteer work you love, or lend a neighbor a hand with a project, or make a sick friend a tasty meal. Just as so many others have said, I find when I lose myself in others, I feel the most satisfaction with my life. I can’t wait to hear about your progress on these goals!

  • Karen Mary at

    I’m new to your blog, Michael, and I love it. It’s so fresh and pretty and honest and inspiring. You’re very talented and charming, and I so hope that you learn to appreciate yourself as much as others appreciate you!

  • Venice K. Mitchell at

    Michael
    You have to learn to Breathe! I was a Peope Pleaser mysrlf all my life. Until i finally got sick n tires of being sick n tired. When u find yourself doing something u know in ur mind and you know that you just not “feelin it ” kindly say with courage, No.

    I’m struggling with what I want to do in these final days of 2015 with 2016 right around the way, i need to recognize that I need to trim down things in and around me as well. That i too need to pull in my focus and Breathe in life ! BTW, Your site is
    beautiful! Not cluttered with Pop-Up Ads. I mean i understand the business sidd of blogging, but when u try to read content and they pop up its tiring n i go to other blogs… just sayin’ Lol

    Peace and enjoy Life.
    Venice

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