*For those of you on the IBC email list, sorry for any problems with today’s email. YOU CAN FIND TODAY’S POST BY CLICKING HERE. I switched to a new (and totally awesome) system, but there was a small hiccup with this morning’s email. Thank you so much for your patience.  It will be fixed moving forward. For those that want to join the IBC email list, there is a link in the side bar and at the bottom of every post. Have a fab Monday!!

Habit: an acquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary

For the past six months or maybe longer, I’ve been feeling a bit out of sorts. Previously on the blog I’ve rambled about “being in a rut” or “not feeling like my self”. While I thought I managed to find solutions for those temporary situations, something was still missing. And, the worst part about it is that I’ve just come to accept it. Meaning that feeling overwhelmed, unhappy, and stressed was how things were going to be. Using excuses like “I never have enough time” or “I’m so busy” was really starting to annoy me. Because, upon reflection, I have all the time in the world and I’m honestly not THAT busy. And while I recognized certain areas for growth in my life, I never did anything about them. Day in and day out I continue to function the way I always have. It was silly for me to expect my situation to change, when I really wasn’t doing anything to change it.

52 Habits | Inspired by Charm

Last week I spent a lot of my time reading (and by reading I mean listening to the audiobook while I shoveled snow). The book was You are a Badass (How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life) by Jen Sincero. To be honest, I love a good self-help book. However, I have never found one that was actually that great. That was, until I read this book. I can’t remember how or why I stumbled upon it, but I honestly look at is as a little gift from the universe. It couldn’t have fallen into my lap at a more perfect time. There’s so much that I took away from this book and I heartily recommend it. (I do say this with caution, however, because not all self-help books are for everyone.)

52 Habits | Inspired by Charm

After finishing this book, I realized I need to make some changes. Big changes. As the title says, I wanted to “stop doubting my greatness and start living an awesome life.” I mean, who doesn’t, right? So, I did a lot of thinking and have successfully devised a plan. And, as you may have guessed from the title of this post, my plan is all about habits.

Over the past 30 years, I have developed some not so attractive habits. Habits that I know are preventing me from being all that I can be. Habits that are holding me back from living the life that I want to live. So, I’ve devised a plan. This weekend I sat down with a pen and paper and began constructing a list of 52 habits I wanted to change about myself. One for each week in a year. I feel I should also mention that I don’t want to change who I am at my core. I’m glad to be who I am. Honestly. But, at the end of the day, I feel like I’m not as happy as I could be and that I’m not taking advantage of this one and only life.

52 Habits | Inspired by Charm

Right now I have roughly 25 habits on my list – things I want to focus on over the next year. I assume that in the next few months the list of 52 will be complete. I plan on focusing on one new habit each week. I will give it my all. No matter how hard or annoying the task is, I will fight to make it happen. I will reach. I will push.

The plan is to focus on each new habit for 21 days. (If you are wondering where I came up with that number, during my first job out of college, my boss always told me it takes 21 days to build a habit.) So, if you put the pieces together, each week I will be focusing on adjusting three habits about myself. Not too overwhelming, right? I feel that three is a manageable number. If I attempted to dive in and try to change all of these things at once, I would be overwhelmed.

Once the 21 days are up, I will reflect on each habit to see if it’s leading me in the right direction. To see if it’s making me a happy person or helping me live a more awesome life.

52 Habits | Inspired by Charm

These habits range from very simple things to a few that will be a bit more complicated. Let me share a few examples from my list: Exercise at least thirty minutes a day before noon. Meditate daily. Write for one uninterrupted hour a day. Create a manifesto and read it aloud every morning and every night. Develop a tight, but still flexible schedule/routine. Drink one green smoothie every day. Break the relationship with the snooze button. Be kinder.

Part of me wanted to keep this habit journey to myself and part of me wanted to share it here on IBC. As you can see, I decided on the latter and here is why. First, I’m hoping that this process will be a transformative part of my journey and since IBC is how I’m documenting and sharing that journey, it should be a part of it. Secondly, I’m hoping it creates some sort of accountability for me. There is no doubt that this is going to be a challenge. And finally, I hope that if any of you are feeling the same way, you’ll join along with me.

I will use IBC as a way to keep you updated on my progress. It may not be a weekly thing (unless that’s what you want), but maybe every other week I’ll check in to share my progress. If self-helpery isn’t your thing, feel free to ignore these posts. And don’t worry, I’ll still be sharing the usual creative, delicious, colorful IBC content you’ve come to expect.

52 Habits | Inspired by Charm

I also wanted to mention that this is a process. And, while I hope that by sharing it someone else might be inspired to make changes to live the life they want, I’m in no way saying that this is THE way. It’s just how I’ve decided to move forward and better myself. And, there’s a chance it may not work. However, I feel like I’m at a point where I have no other choice and my brain and the universe are telling me that this is how I need to proceed. So, let’s do this! This change begins today. Thank you for joining me on this journey.

Inspired By Charm Paint Colors
Comments

  • CJ at

    This sounds like a book I need to read, thank you for sharing! I would like to say that you are a very good writer, better than most.

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      It’s a fabulous book. Thanks so much. Have a great week!

      xo Michael

  • janet at

    Congratulations! Recognizing there is a problem is half the battle! πŸ™‚ Look at the changes as gifts to yourself. 3 gifts every 21 days is a great plan!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      You got it Janet! Thank you!

      xo Michael

  • Jan Tanis at

    Hi Michael,

    I just recently found your blog and I’m enjoying it!

    Your post today is great! I wish you much success in changing your bad habits into life-changing good things!

    I will be joining with you and changing some of my own not-so-good habits! It doesn’t make a bit of difference what age you are, you can always be BETTER! I’ve been thinking this very same thing for a couple of weeks now. After I get dinner in the crockpot, I’ll be sitting down and making a list of the bad habits I want to change.

    Let’s see what we can achieve!! I’m going to share a link to this post on my Blog…and hopefully encourage others to join us.

    Hugs,
    Jan

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Hey Janet!

      Thank you so much for your kind words. I’m so happy to hear you’ll be joining along too! We can do this. I’ll be certain to share updates.

      xo Michael

  • Emily at

    Cannot wait to read (well, probably listen) to this book. You are always delightful, Michael, and I appreciate your continued effort and energy in sharing your journey. Stay fabulous–Em

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Awww! Thank you so much Emily! I hope you love this book as much as I did!

      xo Michael

  • Mary at

    Awesome! I totally want to read this. Thanks for sharing.

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      You bet! Enjoy! πŸ™‚

      xo Michael

  • Cynthia at

    Hi Michael, What an awesome post! You will make it work, because YOU, are you. Be kind, be gentle, and take it slow..some habits are easier to begin and/or break than others. I love watching your joyfilled adventure~ Your fan from the beginning, Cynthia xo
    ps I will look at myself today : )

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thank you Cynthia! That’s why I chose this particular path. Previously I’ve tried jumping in and changing everything and failed miserably. Hopefully focusing on one thing a week, I’ll have better luck.

      Again, many thanks!!

      xo Michael

  • Heather at

    It is a relief to see that I am not the only one who is in need of a soulful ‘ass-kicking’. I have also become lazy in terms of living a fulfilling and satisfying life. I love my daily life but I agree wholeheartedly that there is some spark missing. So, after reading your post, your motivation has also become my motivation because now I know that I am not alone in trying to better myself- which makes me feel infinitely better. Your plan is a fantastic plan and I believe that you have started something that will forever change your life. Thank you for sharing this with us, as it must be a very difficult task to share your private life with strangers. Rock On Michael!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Soulful ass-kicking! I love that. Genius.

      Honestly, there is so much to love in this comment. Thank you so much for your encouraging words. I would assume that changing 30 year habits are going to be a challenge. However, knowing that it will ‘forever change my life’ for the good is all the encouragement I could ever need. πŸ™‚

      Thanks Heather!

      xo Michael

  • Carrie at

    I found the link to this blog entry on pinterest today. I’ve got to say that I feel I could have written this myself. I’ve been feeling the exact same way – and as you said, I have all the time in the world, I’m not that busy. Yet, I feel stressed, overwhelmed, and unsatisfied with life in general. I don’t feel like I am living my best life. I’m going to pick this book up, and make a list of my own. It seems like it’s exactly what I need. Thank you, and good luck on your habits!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      You said it Carrie! I’m feeling the same way. Here’s hoping this works!

      And good luck to you too! I really hope you enjoy the book. πŸ™‚

      xo Michael

  • sharon at

    aw michael, you are such a sweet person. good for you to try to work on improving and making yourself even more awesome. i think i will try this too….thanks for the nudge.

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thanks Sharon! Best of luck to you too! πŸ™‚

      xo Michael

  • Elaine - visual meringue at

    That sounds like a great plan. And thank you for the book suggestion. I’d be interested in weekly updates, so yes, please share if you feel inclined. πŸ™‚ Good luck!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Will do Elaine! It’s definitely seems like there is enough interest. Thank you!

      xo Michael

  • Funky Junk Interiors at

    This is a GREAT post, M! I very much want to hear how you progress. I think it’s pretty safe to say we all need to develop good habits that help us reach our destination and ultimately a better life. For now AND the future. Good for you! I’m certainly tuned in!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thank you, D!! So very true! Now is the time , right?

      xo Michael

  • Terry at

    Good for you! I wonder how many people you’ve inspired to do the same. I know you’ve inspired me.

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      That’s great to hear Terry! I guess everyone has a method to their madness. This is mine. Haha.

      Best of luck!!

      xo Michael

  • Tashia D at

    I’m a new reader and am loving your blog! This is a great post, but you definitely made it more awesome by posting a quote from Teen Witch. What a great totally 80’s movie! Top That! ; )

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thank you so much Tashia! Teen Witch has been a favorite since the first time I watched it.

      xo Michael

  • Kaitlin Jenkins at

    Thanks for sharing this! I often have those feelings too, and am recently dealing with a career change that could really use the help of a few good habits. I think I’ll take a page from your book and try my own version of this too! I am really looking forward to your updates on this- you’re going to rock it! Your 2014 ROAR goal seems to be coming to life already πŸ˜‰

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Haha! You remember. Yes! It certainly is. While this is a different approach then Roar, it certainly still fits.

      And best of luck to you on your career change.

      xo Michael

  • Shannon at

    Hi Michael!

    I just recently discovered your blog (by way of Young House Love) and have really enjoyed it. My crafty to do list is definitely longer since finding IBC!

    I think your blog entry found me at just the right time too. I have been feeling much the same way. There’s really nothing I can complain about, but yet… I’m so inspired by your 52 habits. This could be just what I need. I think I’ll start a list of my own.

    Thank you for being willing to share your journey with all of us and being open about what you are feeling! All the best as you begin this adventure!!

    Shannon

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Yay! I’m so happy you stubbled over from YHL’s sweet shout out. I’m so glad you are here!

      You are most welcome and best of luck to you as you tackle your own list. πŸ™‚

      xo Michael

  • Mackenzie at

    I’m glad you chose to share your plan and your inspiration on your blog. It makes me feel less inadequate to read that someone else is experiencing the same feelings that I experience! I think this is a rut that many, many of us fall into – the “I’m SO busy, I have NO time” rut – and it’s great to be reminded that we have the power to change our lives for the better.

    I hope your journey goes well and leads to more fulfillment in your life!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thank you very much Mackenzie! Ruts are a terrible thing, but certainly a reality of life. I’m hoping that these little steps will help me to dig out of mine and hopefully provide even a little inspiration for others to do the same.

      Thanks again for taking the time to write. πŸ™‚

      xo Michael

  • caroline [the diy nurse] at

    I love this and it sooo hit home with me. I don’t know if it’s a seasonal affective disorder thing or what but I’ve been out of it too. JUst recently I’ve started to feel more like me but it took a deep rut of sitting on the couch. Feeling sorry for myself. Feeling so fat, like a blob of laziness but I was too tired and lazy to do anything about it. I’m eating a bit better and went to the gym for the first time yesterday. There’s a long journey to be had there but I so get the frustration of not being where you see your ‘real’ self. Not being who you know you can be.

    I’ve been big into audiobooks lately since I spend 8 hours a week in a car so this fits the bill. Have you thought of doing a book club series? You know… in all that free time of yours πŸ˜‰

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      I hear you Caroline. I’ve been there.

      Being in this new state of mind I’ve come to realize those moments on the couch are when we need to push ourselves the most because it’s so much easy to just sit there. Ya know? And those times are the hardest because its so much easier to do nothing.

      I’m so glad you’re feeling more like you with those little (but big) steps. It’s the little things that add up the the big ones. Keep going!

      And yes, I’ve thought about a Book Club, I’m just not sure how they work in Blogland. I need to do some more research.

      xo Michael

  • dawn at

    I’m always looking for a new self help book even though I have several I still haven’t read. The Four Agreements is a good one and a quick read. It seems like I periodically find myself in a rut and have to regroup and prioritize my goals. I’ve found balance is so important for me. I love the idea of establishing a list of habits and then just working on a few at a time each week. I can get easily overwhelmed. I started a green smoothie challenge where I drank a green smoothie each day for 21 days. I wasn’t perfect, but I’ve tried to drink one at least a few times a week. As you stated, life is a journey. Some things stick and other’s don’t. I’m still working on meditating. Let me know if you find the secret to making that one stick πŸ™‚

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Dawn,

      Yes! I’ve actually been listening to The Four Agreements and I’m loving it! I can definitely see myself returning to these two books often.

      Yes, I totally agree with you. I get overwhelmed easily too and just call it quits. Sometimes I think we are much to hard on ourselves. It takes time to find things that fit.

      And yes, I’ll certainly be sharing any info on meditation. I got my hands on Oprah’s and Deepak Chopra’s 21-Day meditation. I think that’s where I will start.

      xo Michael

  • allison at

    check out brene brown’s books, particularly ‘daring greatly’. life changer. her TED talks are also super inspiring!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thanks Allison! I actually listened to Daring Greatly as well. Fabulous book!

      xo Michael

  • Becky McCraney at

    Michael,
    Thank you for your transparency. I really enjoy the blog and all your creative inspiring ideas. I have to admit having followed you now for over a year I sensed that something was up?
    I just want to tell you, you are unique, gifted and talentedv, designed by a God almighty for his purpose and plan. He loves you and desires to see you focus on your great qualities he has bestowed upon you for his glory! He loves you, just the way you are!!!!
    Yes we all have bad habits to work on. So I am curious to see where this path you are choosing leads you.
    Thanks again for your honesty and you seek to create a great year.
    God already has it created for you and just asked you to join him! Bad habits and all!

    Becky

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thank you so much for your positivity and encouragement. I’m really hoping this journey is a positive force in my life. At least it’s worth a try. At this point there’s nothing to lose.

      Thanks again Becky!

      xo Michael

  • Giuseppina at

    Such great timing! I was just thinking about this over the weekend. I need to start listening to myself and doing what is best for ME. Thank you for sharing πŸ™‚

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      You got it! Go for it.

      xo Michael

  • Cynthia at

    Hi Michael,
    I meant to ask if you could share a few of your fav smoothies. That is a habit I would like to start. I don’t eat much sugar or grain (light primal~paleo, notice “light” πŸ™‚ ). Faith on your journey. The above post has reached new heights, it’s crisp, light, and soothing! Hugs~ Cynthia

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thanks a million Cynthia.

      And yes, when I tackle that habit, I’ll be sharing a few recipes. I even made a note to do that when I wrote down the habit. Haha. Stay tuned. πŸ™‚

      In the meantime, check out http://www.simplegreensmoothies.com – I get so many great recipes from there. They even share them on Instagram!

      xo Michael

  • The Single Nester at

    Thank you for your honesty! From an outsider looking in on your blog and many others, so many things look picture perfect that it can sometimes be both inspirational and depressing to the reader. I too am trying to figure out my life path. I will begin with the book you mentioned and lots of prayer.

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      I totally hear you. I’m obviously a blog reader too and I definitely find it deflating at times. That’s why I think it’s always good share things like this to give a bigger perspective.

      Best of luck to you on your own journey.

      xo Michael

  • Katie at

    Thank you for sharing this post! I completely sympathize with how you’re feeling! There are a few habits that I have that I would really like to break/change, and there are many that I would like to adopt. The one that I’m currently working on is remembering to floss every single day. I brush my teeth all the time, but for some reason I always thought flossing was SO time consuming. At the same time it is obviously really good for both oral hygeine and has a lot of other health benefits. I’ve been doing good for a couple weeks now but totally understand how hard it can be to change habits, even when they move you in the direction you want to go. Good luck!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      That’s awesome Katie. While I can’t speak to it yet as I’m only a day into the process. I think that by changing a few small habits, you end up developing other good habits without even knowing it. That’s the best.

      Thank you!
      Good luck to you too!

      xo Michael

  • Debbie at

    This could not have come at a better time. I only just found your blog and love reading it. In the past 2 1/2 years I have dealt with ten family deaths, the cleaning out of four deceased family members homes, the stressful college classes of my daughter, husband’s constant work schedule and little “me” time.

    I am emotionally drained and need a PLAN. Just writing this takes so much courage and I want
    to better myself and my future. I want to find this book and start the healing process. Thanks for
    posting this as I hope to make it work for me.

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Debbie,

      Wow. What strength you must have. I’m so terribly sorry for all of your loss in the past few years. Yes, it definitely sounds like you need so me time.

      I hope this book and my discussion about it here on the blog is helpful.

      Sending love and happy thoughts!
      xo Michael

  • alissa@33shadesofgreen at

    Awesome, awesome, awesome post, Michael! I have been feeling the same, embarrassingly enough, maybe for about a year. But, I keep finding excuses instead of making changes. Thank you for posting this – I am going to check out the book!

    Have a great week!
    Alissa

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Same here! Excuses are so much easier! Best of luck to you on your journey.

      Thanks for all of your kind words.

      xo Michael

  • Carley at

    The fact you take the time to respond to everyone’s comments and really engage, is such a wonderful thing! I would think that would take quite a bit of time πŸ™‚ You are spreading joy, love, inspiration and beauty…so while we all could use improvement, know that you are an extremely powerful source of positivity. You are loved!

    Xo Carley

    PS – I have an awesome green drink recipe to share with you!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      You’re the sweetest Carley. Thank you so much! And yes, I’ll take all the green drink recipes I can get. Bring ’em on! πŸ™‚

      xo Michael

  • Ali at

    Add me to the list for someone who would love to hear frequent updates on this. Thanks for the heads up on the book! Got it today on my Kindle πŸ™‚

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Done! I certainly hope you enjoy it!

      xo Michael

  • Dorthey at

    It is a bit refreshing to hear that someone who appears to have it all or at least have everything moving in the right direction is actually in the boat with the rest of us ( or at least me). I’d like to say I am in funk because of winter. ( I live in PA). However, this winter of my discontent is more like the 5 year plan to no where. How true it is that while wanting change in one’s life, nothing will change if one keeps doing the same thing. Gotta get a plan. Thanks for the kick in the pants. I look forward to following your journey and starting my own.

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Dorthey,

      Thanks for writing. I hear you loud and clear on the winter thing. I’m in PA too and it’s been a dreadful one. And yes, a plan and a kick in the pants is so necessary. However hard it is, it’s totally worth it too.

      Best of luck on your journey! I’ll be here cheering you on.

      xo Michael

  • Kathy at

    Michael,

    I purchased this book after reading your post. And, I’m LOVING it! It’s so nice to be to able to “understand” what someone is trying to say. Sometimes, the self help books are so full of “look how smart I am,” big words, and “philosophies” that you totally lose the point that they are trying to get across. Jen, is hilarious! I love her down to earth way of putting it out there! Thank you so much for recommending her book. I also need a kick in the pants, to get myself out of ruts I’m stuck in.

    Kathy

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      I totally agree Kathy. Some self help books are just way beyond my level. Jen is speaking my language and talking right to me! I’m so glad you’re enjoying it.

      xo Michael

  • Tracey McCartney at

    Thanks for the recommendation! I too am in a rut…looking for a new path. My children are now in middle school & my life has changed dramatically from doing all for them to now turning my focus back on reinventing myself. I think it is great to shake things up & to realize that its time for change! You truly are amazing, so creative, so positive! I am sure you will nail this, you are an inspiration!!!

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Thanks a million Tracey! And best of luck on your journey. I guess we all get to a point where we realize we want to change and live a truly happy an amazing life.

      Thank you again!

      xo Michael

  • Jason at

    I think this is great and cheers to you for doing it! I too feel a bit off about life, so many good things going for me and in my life, but in so many ways I just feel like I’m going through the motions and not really living a vibrant happy life. I look forward to following along. I know I need to make some changes, so hopefully I’ll move in that direction! Life is too short and we must embrace it, I think most of us know that, but some of us struggle with what that really means and how to do it.

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      You said it Jason! I’m feeling the same way. I’m learning that happiness is a choice. And I’m choosing happiness. Best of luck to you. πŸ™‚

      xo Michael

  • Jen at

    Hi Michael,
    a friend of my mom’s (a gigantic and dedicated fan of yours for obvious reasons) passed this on to her and she passed it on to me and I’m so grateful:
    a.) To you for pimping my book
    b.) That a talented smartypants such as yourself is sharing your fabulosity with the world
    c.) For your cookie recipes. Hole. E. Crap. My sugar tooth shall not rest until a plate is piled high! I’m so thrilled to be aware of your blog and as soon as I get myself an address I will follow your genius, and sorely needed, design tips. Bravo on the habit quest, you are an inspiration. Onwards and upwards! Jen

    • Michael Wurm, Jr. at

      Jen,

      Seriously. This is the BEST. Thank you for being such an inspiration and for writing THE most incredible book I’ve ever read. I will keep it nearby and ready it again and again and again.

      Your kind words are so appreciated. Thanks again for everything!

      xo Michael

  • Bryony at

    You’ve basically just explained how I’ve been feeling the past 6 months! It is such a relief to know I’m not the only one ! I am always up for a new self help book & can’t wait to read this one (I hope it helps inspire me as It has done yourself)! Thank-You!!

2 Trackbacks

Post a comment (Need an avatar?)

* required fields